I am an ethnically Middle Eastern 21 y/o girl who's been dating a 23 y/o white guy for the past 2 years (my first ever relationship, met at uni, best 2 years of my life). I love him so much, find him gorgeous, sexy, basically everything I could ever dream of.
Here's the issue. I was bullied for 7 years at high school, where the popular girls would call me "ugly", a "tranny", a "dyke/lesbian" and once even spread rumours that I was a "shemale" and had admitted to having a "willy". I had a grand total of 0 friends, and it was simply the most traumatic experience of my life. Girls would cover their bodies from me when changing for PE at school because they thought I was perving at them. There are things I hate about myself -- crowded teeth at the front, tiny eyes, big nose, and a 28A.
To go from that, to being asked out by a gorgeous guy at uni felt like a miracle. But now, 2 years in and a few similar "bullying" experiences later, I'm starting to have doubts that are damaging my relationship.
I no longer believe my boyfriend finds me attractive. I feel mentally ill because of my past high school experience; I don't know what game he's playing by dating me because I'm still that same girl that was considered vile at high school. He calls me "beautiful" and "hot" when I push him by persistently asking "am I pretty", and surely that must be putting him off. I remember all sorts of awful things from high school such as boys going "ewwwww" as I would walk into a school classroom. It's as if loads of horrific high school memories have started flooding back.
Please help me. What can I do to restore my self-esteem? I don't want my boyfriend to think I'm crazy by getting frustrated with him for no apparent reason, or having jealous fits of rage when girls stare at him on the streets. And secondly, am I ugly? I don't want to post photos of me and my boyfriend on here, but if trustworthy-seeming people message me, I can send a few so you can judge for yourselves if he's out of my league and if I should accept that I was bullied because I'm genuinely disgusting.
But more than anything -- I need to find a way to be confident in who I am. How can I achieve this.