Why are some people in denial about the importance of looks?

I don't believe that it's mainly denial or a cope.
More an awareness of the fact that not everyone's attraction is solely looks orientated and some people have no dealbreakers connected with specific physical looks/types.

There are many sighted people who are primarily attracted by elements other than looks.
Fame, illegal habits, intelligence, money, power, political activism or religious beliefs.
Plenty of vile tempered physically ugly felons who are jobless and have horrifying habits or histories also have gf's or multiple besotted women fighting over them. Even child abusers and serial killers on death row.
Plenty of thuggish criminal scumbags with nothing positive about them have found partners.
The Jerry Springer show and Jeremy Kyle show both had hundreds of these types of guests.
Most of whom had absolutely nothing admirable about them yet more than 3 exes competing to be the rotten apple's 'official' partner.
Even after being lied to, robbed of their savings, beaten into intensive care or infected with a serious illness sexually transmitted by a dishonest two/three/five timer.

That's cope. Looks is what determines who you can get, not hobbies or personality

It's so obvious that looks are very important for romantic relationships, I wonder why some people are in denial and make up copes such as "personality" or "hobbies". I'm sure deep down they notice that looks are what matters, as we all notice that goodlooking people are the most wanted and desired, no matter what "personality" or "hobbies" they have. I guess it's just a cope, they're not attractive so they want to believe that they have the same chances as the more attractive people, so they choose to believe a sweet lie rather than a harsh reality

i think looks are important but i think you're placing too much importance on them.

for me, in a group of people i would be open to dating anyone who is averagely attractive or better. and then out of this group, i'd determine who i'd want to be with based on personality and interests. i agree that looks are important since i wouldn't want to date someone ugly, but you shouldn't let them solely determine who you date or else you're going to have a really bland relationship. if a very attractive guy who's into sports and working out dates a very pretty girl who likes staying in and watching movies, the only thing going for the couple is the photos they can take together because their interests do not mesh at all

It's so obvious that looks are very important for romantic relationships, I wonder why some people are in denial and make up copes such as "personality" or "hobbies". I'm sure deep down they notice that looks are what matters, as we all notice that goodlooking people are the most wanted and desired, no matter what "personality" or "hobbies" they have. I guess it's just a cope, they're not attractive so they want to believe that they have the same chances as the more attractive people, so they choose to believe a sweet lie rather than a harsh reality

Looks matters the most when you see someone for the first time until you get to know a person as its what makes a person approach you in the first place. Looks won’t matter long term if you’re personality doesn’t mesh well with the other. Some people may be average looking but say you hang out and spend time with them because of mutual friends they may grow on you and you will find them more overall attractive as a whole. There are many people who may not be conventionally attractive who have won peoples hearts by their mysterious and unexpected personality which can grow on a person. Someone could be very attractive but that may wear off if you find them annoying and rude to others.

looks are important as you have said but you place too much significance to them. yes the first thing we look at is looks but someone doesn't need to be a 10/10, they just need to not be ugly. but other than that, it really is their personality that would make us want to pursue a relationship to them. a 9/10 conventionally attractive guy who is mildly funny and doesn't have a lot of interests cannot even compare to an average 7/10 who's funny, has so much interests and can keep a conversation.

Cope, a 9 always beats people who are worse looking than him/her. He/she can even make other couples separate if he/she wants

um no! a couple doesn't separate just because one person sees someone they find more attractive. i would assume by the time people are in a relationship they're actually committed to the person rather than being with them just for their looks. i don't know what shallow people you've been around to make you think looks are the only or even the biggest deciding factor in pursuing a relationship

Looks are clearly important and certainly play a role, it's silly to deny that. But I don't think it's the most important factor in a relationship, at least in the long run. Because no matter how fit your partner is, if you're with them long enough you'll get ''bored'' of their beauty, the novelty wears off. So if there's no common interest or engaging personality there then it's unlikely to work out. I've slept with some peng tings who I would never want a relationship with because our personalities just don't gel at all.

You don't get bored of beauty. You get bored of the same personality and interests

You most certainly get bored of the same person's beauty.

That's cope. Looks is what determines who you can get, not hobbies or personality

Cope, a 9 always beats people who are worse looking than him/her. He/she can even make other couples separate if he/she wants

You don't, beauty stimulates your senses and produces the hormones of happyness. An ugly person can't give you that. I hear many girls who say that seeing a handsome guy when they get up is the best experience in life, that says a lot about the importance of looks.