Hi, I guess I will start with the backstory.
About five years ago, I moved to the US to attend school there due to my parents moving jobs. That's where I met my 'friend'. We were in different year groups, but I was introduced to him via a mutual friend and we immediately got along.
About a week after being introduced (which was literally just to say 'hello'), my family were invited to his house for dinner. I didn't realise it was his family so when I arrived, we both laughed and joked around saying how it was 'destiny'. It is pretty stupid thinking about it now but it felt so nice then. lol.
Anyway so this meant we were able to spend an entire evening together and we really bonded. After the dinner party came to an end he gave me his msn (yep that's how long ago it was) and asked me to chat with him there tomorrow night, which I did. And then we chatted quite a bit for about another week, but couldn't do any deep-convos as we were both having school exams.
about a week after this dinner party , he messaged me saying that he was moving to the UK a couple of days later. This kind of stunned me, and I still don't know why but I made no effort to see him for the last time or anything, and just waited till he left. and then I realised I really liked him and tried to get in touch again, but he never appeared on msn.
I didn't have facebook at the time and nor did he. social media wasn't really a big thing back then and I didn't want to ask about him through my parents so I just left it. until now.
I have moved back to the UK and it was a total coincidence that I saw his name on an article online. obviously it could've been anyone as the name is quite common, but I looked through facebook searching his name and his university together and found him. but whilst i was definitely sure it was his account, he was clearly not very active on facebook as the last activity was sometime in 2012 and he didn't even have a profile picture.
I have sent him a friend request but I now have a few concerns. First of all what if he doesn't ever come on facebook again? or even if he does, what if it's in several years time or something? I am returning to the US in about 4 months so I don't know if it will be worth just waiting.
but that leads me to my next concern. what if he doesn't remember me? how should i approach him? what should i message him ?
and based on my story, is it worth going an extra mile (by trying to reconnect with his old friends / his uni friends to find him? would that appear really stalkerish?
I have liked him for quite a while after he left so it would mean so much to meet him again.
Sorry for the really long post and thank you to all of you who've read down to here.