suppose this is more me ranting/venting than wanting an answer. but basically i have this 'friend' who never bothers to makes plans with me, its always me who asks. i asked her to do something with me once, texted her a few days before to confirm, she didnt reply then i bumped into her in person. i asked if she got my text thinking maybe she didnt, but she said yes (so she ignored it) and that she wasnt able to come to our plans anymore. gave me an excuse, so i was like fine and left it. i was a bit confused as to why she didnt just text me saying that, was she gonna leave it til the last minute or something when shed already decided she was cancelling on me?
then a few days before xmas i said we should organise a big night out with all our friends to see each other and catch up. she agreed. again i texted her a few days before asking if she'd asked many people and who was coming. she said she'd asked only 2 people.. i was a bit disappointed. then when it came to the actual night, she waited til 7pm to cancel (when thats usually the time you'd be going out..). i was obviously angry, not only was she leaving it so late when all along she'd seemed disinterested, she was cancelling on me yet again.
now her reasons for cancelling are that she's "ill". however she's been tagged in photos on facebook hanging around with other people, smiling and looking fine. she even went traveling. she told me that she'd had to cancel on other people due to being ill... however this doesnt really seem to be the case from what i can see. she tried to turn herself into the victim in the situation, saying that me being mad at her for cancelling so often wasnt fair.. when i think i have every right to feel the way i do, its how i feel. i feel like she hasnt respected my time or been very polite (if i was ill id let the person know asap, not at 7pm..). she also said she didnt want to go out because she was ill, then was out the next day, and uploaded a video of herself singing (but claimed she had a sore chest..).
i know its clear i should just forget about her and move on. but i think its annoying people agree to plans in the first place if they arent going to follow through. maybe some people cant say no, but in the end theyre only being disrespectful and wasting people's time.
was just wondering if people had any similar experiences they wanted to share, or any advice other than to never make plans with the girl again.