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    My mum is not affectionate AT ALL towards me. Shes raised me and my siblings alone and went through alot so that may be why she is so cold but idk. She does show that she cares in different ways like giving us money and cooking for us but thats about it. I think my other siblings have been affected by this because theyre not touchy feely at all (other than my 3 yr old sis) but im still affectionate and will be so affectionate to my future children
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    Very. She forehead kissed me the other day. Bit weird actually
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    Yes but she acts more like a sister. We fight and argue like sisters but I know she loves me. She hugs me whenever she sees me, texts me all throughout the day and always sends me an 'I love you' text at night.
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    I despise my mother and she regrets having me
    So it's your regular dysfunctional family
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    Suffice it to say that I can't wait to move out
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    (Original post by The Lonely don)
    I despise my mother and she regrets having me
    So it's your regular dysfunctional family
    She probably doesnt mean it
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    I remember her calling me for a cuddle on the sofa when I was abut 8. I think that was when her depression started, although I did not work that out until years later.

    I cannot remember any more cuddles or kisses after that.


    She did send me a St Valentine's Day card when I had left home, in case nobody else had. It made me cry.
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    (Original post by prettyGirl101)
    My mum is not affectionate AT ALL towards me. Shes raised me and my siblings alone and went through alot so that may be why she is so cold but idk. She does show that she cares in different ways like giving us money and cooking for us but thats about it. I think my other siblings have been affected by this because theyre not touchy feely at all (other than my 3 yr old sis) but im still affectionate and will be so affectionate to my future children
    My life as well. My mum is a nice person but I wish she would show me some more damned emotion. I also feel like it will have a huge detrimental effect on my future relationships because I'm not v touchy feely. But I am to smother my future children [If I've any] with love.

    Did you have anyone else in your life who provided you with the emotional fulfillment?
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    Yes, very affectionate. It drives me crazy because I hate hugging, kissing etc - it just feels like an unnecessary invasion of my personal space. I've felt this way from when I was quite young but my both my parents are still very tactile towards me.
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    Yeah, i have other relatives who love and value me. My mum does too (she has the biggest heart i know of) but i guess some of my other aunties are more affectionate.

    Ive always been abit of a lone wolf though and im my own best friend so i dont really require much affection but there are days (like today as im so ill) that i wish i had someone in my life who cuddled and made a fuss but Hopefully my future husband will show me affection

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    My life as well. My mum is a nice person but I wish she would show me some more damned emotion. I also feel like it will have a huge detrimental effect on my future relationships because I'm not v touchy feely. But I am to smother my future children [If I've any] with love.

    Did you have anyone else in your life who provided you with the emotional fulfillment?
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    Yes she is.
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    (Original post by prettyGirl101)
    Yeah, i have other relatives who love and value me. My mum does too (she has the biggest heart i know of) but i guess some of my other aunties are more affectionate.

    Ive always been abit of a lone wolf though and im my own best friend so i dont really require much affection but there are days (like today as im so ill) that i had someone in my life who cuddled and made a fuss but Hopefully my future husband will show me affection
    Aw well you sound lovely and same here, my auntie is like the sister I never had. All the best!
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    My mum isn't that affectionate, its more my dad that is.
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    I hate my temperamental mum AND my psychological bully dad.

    It's a nigerian culture i'm living in. You can't just make sense with my mum, she makes her disability a BIG DEAL which isn't really bad. I'm glad to disown myself when i go uni in september as i don't plan to talk to them anymore.
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    wish* i had someone in my life who cuddled (just corrected a little mistake in that sentence)

    and thanks love. same to you


    (Original post by und3niable_)
    Aw well you sound lovely and same here, my auntie is like the sister I never had. All the best!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I hate my temperamental mum AND my psychological bully dad.

    It's a nigerian culture i'm living in. You can't just make sense with my mum, she makes her disability a BIG DEAL which isn't really bad. I'm glad to disown myself when i go uni in september as i don't plan to talk to them anymore.
    african parents eh?
    its how thety were raised i guess as they grew up in a more disciplined, harsher generation
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    Just the right amount. I'm not a very affectionate person so I don't like constant hugging etc.
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    She's not unaffectionate, but she doesn't go out of her way to give it. If I was upset or it was a special occasion she would though. It's a shame because I love affection...so I mostly get it from men I date and friends.
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    My mum was so affectionate she ended up kicking me out.



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    Srsly.
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    Very, always get hugs and kisses on the cheek when I see her
 
 
 
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