Hi, I know my reply is very late, and none of this matters to you by now but still, for your benefit and for the benefit of anyone else reading. I’m one of those people who ghost other people. Not frequently, but on occasion, I did it to three people who cared, and asked and followed up trying to resolve something, and a bunch of folks who frankly didn’t notice. I want to assure you that this behavior has nothing to do with you but everything to do with the person ghosting. My first situation was this high school friend who was a refugee living in a foster home. I felt bad for her but was also nothing more than kind. She would invite me to her birthday and I wouldn’t invite her to mine, and other than being polite, I really never did anything to foster the relationship. When she left my school I signed a card saying “if you ever need to talk, I’m here”, but again, more of a procedural thing. Years later she told me it meant a lot to her that note, I guess I never realized how alone she was. Over the years she kept in touch and some 5 years later she broke up with her boyfriend and had way too much free time and started calling every day and wanting to hang out constantly. I went along with it for a while. Truth be told she was a fine person, nothing wrong with her, but I didn’t like her energy. She spoke a bit loud and moved her arms when she spoke and after seeing her I felt filled with anxiety due to our mismatch, I’m very zen. I just found her way too aggressive. One day I finally had enough and I just stopped picking up the phone. She wanted to try and resolve things but from my perspective there wasn’t anything to resolve. I couldn’t ask her to change her energy for me, that was impossible, and it would only hurt her feelings if I did say it. So I just vanished, avoiding the hard conversation that would go nowhere. Same happened with a bunch of people. At some point there is no compatibility and it’s as simple as that. Don’t dwell on things, just know that the relationship wouldn’t have worked and the ghosted just saved you some time and angst.