How do you view 'femininity' as never fit in with it.

Oh please, 'I don't *insert traditionally feminine things here*, so I'm better.

Sexist moron.

I respect all people unless they do me wrong and dont think that im better than anyone. In fact theres no one who i really dislike. Im simply opening up about how ive viewed the world and possible issues Ive had all my life as Ive never talked about them in real life. Maybe I shouldnt have done this. If this makes me sexist then fine but it doesnt alter my behaviour Im willing to be friends with all types of people.

can we all calm down? as I guy I would like to say I do not give a single ****

thank u

It just sounds elitist, how because you don't do these things you think you're better, you even just admitted it, in your first paragraph!

It's not fair, girls get enough s*** from some guys, for doing typically feminine things ex. I broke my nail *cries* overblown reaction pisstake, and they honestly don't need more nastiness from other girls. We should be lifting each other up, not tearing each other down over what kind of gender dress-up we want to play.

I said that Ive always felt masuline traits are more valuble and so thats what Ive mentally strived towards, i didnt say anything about being a better person than others. You strive towards certain traits that you think are respected, but you dont think you are better than people without those behaviours, do you?

I stick up for women a lot and feel their caring skills are often taken advantage of a lot but if I talk about this I think I will then get replies calling me a feminist lol.

I'm sorry, the type of mindset she has is common in the 'nerd girl' community, and it pisses me off to death, because it's so snobby and elitist. Also, asking if guys respect that type of girl more, just sounds like 'Cool girl' bulls*** to me.

I am a guy and am attracted to feminine girls.
Tomboy girls put me off.
I want to be with a girl not with my best mate lol.

Ive never wanted to be part of a 'nerd community' or whatever at the moment I dont see myself as part of any specific group. All i want is to be the best I can. What you dont seem to have noticed is that the whole intention of me creating this thread is to challenge my mindset by getting different views, so that I can be happier with myself. Its not my fault your mindset is to be angry with a 'nerd community'. I dont feel its fair you are directing your anger at me.

I know you're not from that, I was just using an example.

Plus, it's not my anger, more disappointment, you've clearly not seen my anger.

I know, I meant I don't want to have a specific mindset but I can't help how my brain has been wired since I was about 7. I didn't really think about it (I just assumed I'm not a girly girl) until my ex boyfriend started to make comments about what I should wear, how I walk 'like a guy' etc among other things and it then got me thinking that I've had issues with being feminine nearly all my life. I do think that feminine traits are important (society wouldn't bloody survive without a woman's caring and nurturing skills) but for some reason I find it hard to act feminine myself. I've always heard lads make comments like 'your a wuss, like a girl' etc and I've probably somehow got it twisted that if I can display more masculine traits I'l get more respect. It's only recently I've thought more deeply about it all. I don't know where to talk about this stuff if not on tsr (and no I'm not seeing a shrink about it just yet).

As a guy, it doesn't make me respect you any more or less than if you were typically feminine. In terms of attractiveness, being tomboyish is an active turn-off.