Hi guys,
I am 21 this year. Throughout my childhood I always have a lot of male friends around and I can easily make male friends of any background, absolutely any, in most socialable places. Most of male friends found it really easy to get on with me and some see me as brothers.
The problem is with girls. I always have problems with friendships with girls since I was little. Mainly because we don't share the same interest. This rather small issue now leads to the bigger problem that I have difficulties forming a relationship as I have very few chances to meet them as you can imagine. By the way, I only had one serious relationship which had a very poor ending.
Naturally I doubt my physical attrativeness oftentimes. However friends, both male and female, comment on my look ranging from "not bad" to "very attractive". I am 6.2 ft and I am definately not someone everyone looks at on the street, but I do get looks from girls every now and then, if you know what I mean.
When I chat to girls, I don't put them off by some stupid behaviors but I think it's the way I talk to them places a distance instantly. I have a natural serious face and body language but I do smile and laugh in the right moments. While I do realise I cannot hold a very charming converation with girls like some guys, I certainly can find some topics to talk about. When I talk to someone, I look straight into their eyes and listen with a rather serious face. Many guys say that they think I am very trustworthy and brotherly friend, however, this set of behaviors diminish the charm as some of my friends say towards females.
Most of the girls around would hardly initiate a random chat with me unless it's damn important. Often when I have a guy friend with me chatting to a girl, she pays more attention to him. I am not jealous but I feel very insecure about it now. I have a successful background in many aspects and am a very confident and down to earth person.
Guys, any of you by this age have had similar issues?
Girls, do you think it's the way I talk and act makes myself distant or is it just that I am unattrative?