Hey TSRians,
Been with my second GF for over six months now - been some of the best months of my life. Since I have high-functioning autism (HFA) / Aspergers, I used to be very awkward in social situations and struggle generally, never mind talking to girls. I have come a long way since then and met my second GF.
She has been cheated on before by her first serious boyfriend many times, was used by him for sex and so on; she finally dumped him, at which point we were just friends (I respected the fact she was in a relationship, still found her attractive but nothing wrong there). We got talking, she opened up to me a lot and we got closer. One night she let her heart out and confessed she loved me and so on, and we have been going out since.
She means so much to me; she's taken my virginity, been there during hard times, knows my fears and ambitions and has made me happy in so many ways. I do not intend to sound like a 'softie' or a 'wuss' here but I have to be honest. Aside from the first point, I have done the same for her.
Recently, we have had problems. I have been staying away doing a uni-esque course away from home, which is kind of a way of simulating the university experience with lectures etc. Been very busy on these days, and have not text her much during them. That bothers her, and we argued about that. I went out last night into town (did not drink) to some clubs, and she got all upset about that (her ex cheated on her with a girl from one), even though I have not cheated nor intend to.
On occasion, I have not replied to her texts (forgot to reply, phone turned off/on silent, notifications off) and she thinks I am ignoring her. Other times she has texted me and I've not checked my texts but went on WhatsApp for a few moments before turning my phone off. She checks WhatsApp and then asks me why I did not respond to her texts. I don't want to rush replies, and I almost never get WhatsApp messages anyway. On extension to this, she said she thinks I am messaging other girls when I do this - when I have done nothing of the sort and been with her over six months. Other days, I will be tired and will send a short reply to her text - prompting her to say that I don't want to talk to her/care/can be bothered etc.
It's wearing us both down, and neither of us is happy nor enjoy the arguing. She has stated on more than one occasion how she is scared/terrified/hates the idea of losing me, so she clearly loves me. Not sure how to solve this problem guys, help me out.
Apologies for the amount of text.