His Instagram habits are causing problems in our relationship

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Instagram is just insecurity fuel in relationships.

Most people have insecurities, and most people don’t like it when their partner looks at attractive people because it brings their insecurities to the front of their mind. This wasn’t a big deal for most relationships 20 years ago, because at worst your guy was looking at a cute girl on the street or looking a bit too long at the hot waitress serving you. Even that pissed off wives and husbands, but it was only rare and infrequent and not a big issue for most.. even tv shows we’re only infrequent and most guys/girls learned not to comment to much about how hot the actors/actresses were.

Women being more physically insecure on average obviously get effected by this more, but it hits men as well.

Instagram is all this on steroids, instead of someone looking at an attractive person every now and again, your now being bombarded by thousands everyday.. your now sat with your partner and there are hundreds all there ready for you. And because it s only your phone and not in public it’s more easy to be secretive and sneaky.

It’s poison for relationships between any people with insecurities about how they look. If you want your relationship to last, get off Instagram, or only follow other types of accounts.

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For girls if your boyfriend doesn’t understand how it makes you feel, start to look at something that plays to his insecurities and see how he likes it. Unless he has a huge ****, an easy way would be to start looking at pictures of massive dicks on your phone in bed, and liking and commenting on them.. see how quickly he feels insecure and then he will get the message. If that isn’t applicable, find another insecurity and pick it until he understands. Maybe he doesn’t feel good in his job, or doesn’t have enough money.. start liking and commenting on rich men etc.

Obviously it’s not a good thing to do for the longterm, but some guys just can’t understand these things until it’s done to them.

(edited 4 years ago)

Reply 41

Nikkimo88

Mine does the exact same thing .. searches the same girls but doesn’t follow them. I feel like that’s more hurtful in a way. I’ve been feeling on the fence about this and I’m having a hard time leaving. I know I deserve better but I keep holding onto the person he use to be. it’s making it hard for me to leave even though he isn’t that person anymore. :/

Reply 42

Jazz Clayton

Likes definitely mean something to models/celebrities you just said it they live on attention and good looks a like is so much to celebrities and models as it’s for their career and they move on in their career by likes etc so yes likes are important to them 🤦🏼*♀️

Reply 43

Anonymous #3

If a guy is following girls that he doesn’t know after making things exclusive with you is that a red flag or something to be worried about?

Reply 44

ock5

I’ve had the same problem with my boyfriend over and over again. I don’t mind if he watches porn, or looks at Instagram models hot pics BUT I hate when he likes the selfies/bikini pics of girls he knows from when he was single. A like and a follow is absolutely telling the other girl that he’s interested in them (especially when it’s a pic of their ass) After trying explaining this to my bf he was more understanding and doesn’t like any scandalous photos. Liking pictures on Instagram isn’t a big deal, which is why if it makes you uncomfortable, it should not be a big deal for him to stop. You’re worth sacrificing the rando bikini pics, don’t let him tell you otherwise

Reply 45

Kxclaraa

What if he is following his ex or someone who liked him/someone he had flirted before? How do I convince him to unfoll?

Reply 46

Kxclaraa

Original post by Judge Jules

Get Over It
He's not doing anything wrong and it's not cheating
He enjoys doing it so let him
If a man is going to cheat they can do it anywhere when they are at work, etc, etc
At least he's not trying to hide it from you
I'd love a boyfriend who likes other girls pictures, Not but seriously I wouldn't be upset about it either. It's harmless. It doesn't mean it will lead to anything.

Watch this funny film called Don Jon
It's about a man who's girlfriend won't allow him to watch certain films on the internet so he has to do it behind her back
It's on free internet films site or www.Yesmovies.to
Just type the title of the film in the search box

Maybe that film will make you feel better then you'll realise that it could've been worse

what if he's following someone who liked him? someone who he flirted before? true that I shouldn't blame my insecurities on him, but i wished he was a little more sensitive? is there any way I can convince him to understand me and unfollow instead of just giving the same excuses "but I didn't talk to them, i didn't fk them" again and again...?

Reply 47

Maze Runner

You're not alone. I am dealing the same situation right now. I always ask my boyfriend to stop adding or following girls on social media but instead of being sentive and apologetic, he just told me that it's only public figures... he's not even chatting or talking to them so why bother? and there's nothing wrong with it. For him, I am just overreacting and being manipulative. Now I am 3 mos pregnant with him but because of this issue, I am having second thoughts of him. I always tell him he disrespects my opinions and he does not care of my feelings at all.

Reply 48

Sara23232

Girl tell your man that you are stopping him not to like those half naked photoshopped sluts cause you love your self and you have tremendous respect for who you are. He has a physical/romantic relationship with you where as he is been acting like a ***** on insta. Sorry to swear but Jesus I will kick my guy’s ass to the curb in a heartbeat. Does it mean I am insecure duh hell no. I am a fitness model with a body like a Goddess :wink:

that’s what ppl say. Anyway back to the point I told my bf yesterday to delete his insta just cause I said so. He deleted his years old insta in a heartbeat. Also he is super handsome and 9 years younger than I am. Why I made him delete insta? cause I think he is very lucky to be with me and need not to see those Naked sluts on insta. These days women are getting naked to get few likes.. literally they Have no shame left what so ever, so tell him to stay away from social media if you want him to or else kick him out. Guys like him are dime a dozen out anyway. For his lame social media account he dares to disrespect his woman. Chop him up., effing ******* .