Im a guy with no female friends.
As in I dont text/hangout with girls outside of school. I have through my life had 5 crushes and no girlfriend. Im a 19y.o male still in college.
Is this bad? How can I fix it?
Is this bad? How can I fix it?
Original post by Anonymous
As in I dont text/hangout with girls outside of school. I have through my life had 5 crushes and no girlfriend. Im a 19y.o male still in college.
Is this bad? How can I fix it?
Is this bad? How can I fix it?
Thats pretty bad!. start conversing with girls in your college, perhaps go clubbing or go to your local shopping centre and try to get girls numbers and snapchats lol.
(edited 6 years ago)
Original post by lZLATANl
Thats pretty bad!. start conversing with girls in your college, perhaps go clubbing or go to your local shopping centre and try to get girls numbers and snapchats lol.
And what do I talk about to said girl when i get their number/snap?
I feel like such a loser now
Original post by Anonymous
And what do I talk about to said girl when i get their number/snap?
I feel like such a loser now
I feel like such a loser now
Don’t feel like a loser.
There’s nothing to fix.
There’s no problem.
We all do things at different times, when it’s the right time, you’ll find someone.
Original post by Anonymous
And what do I talk about to said girl when i get their number/snap?
I feel like such a loser now
I feel like such a loser now
The only way to truly know how to speak to a girl in person and via text is too hone your game (conversation skills) through practice. All you need is confidence and the ability to flirt. I live in London so when i go too westfield with my wingman i'll get at lets say 5 numbers and two rejections, anyway here are some generic questions!.
are you looking for a relationship?
are you chatting to any other guys at the minute?
what country are you from?
What is your body count ( how many sexual partners have you had)
What is your star sign (girls love to talk about star signs lol)
There isn't anything to fix. So what if you don't have any friends who are girls. I'd recommend thinking of women as just as another human, not another species! Don't psyche yourself out. Talk to them like you would talk to any other person i.e. with respect and humour. There is no secret code to talking to women, everyone is different and they are all different to talk to, you'll find someone you'll "click" with.
It's not bad. If you want to find someone then try online, since it's easier to communicate and find the right person.
It might take some time, but it's worth it. I was the same as you, It took me over two years to find this girl I'm talking to right now, after going through two previous ones that had serious issues, and we're pretty sure it'll go well.
It's just about patience, trial & error and taking the time to determine whether that person is for you, and that you are for them. Don't rush.
You'll find someone someday, I thought I wouldn't and look at me now!
Even though my example was about relationships, it still applies to friends in the same way.
It might take some time, but it's worth it. I was the same as you, It took me over two years to find this girl I'm talking to right now, after going through two previous ones that had serious issues, and we're pretty sure it'll go well.
It's just about patience, trial & error and taking the time to determine whether that person is for you, and that you are for them. Don't rush.
You'll find someone someday, I thought I wouldn't and look at me now!
Even though my example was about relationships, it still applies to friends in the same way.
I'm in the same situation as the OP I'm 21 but never kissed or dated a female or have any female friends.
Anyone have any tips on what to do to get girls?
Anyone have any tips on what to do to get girls?
I don't think it's that bad. But that's probably because I went to a single sex school.
If you want to meet girls go clubbing or to bars and pubs with your friends and go up and be friendly with girls, don't necessarily have to flirt with them.
Joining a club is a good way to meet girls, or even just at work.
If all else fails just go on tinder.
At 19 girls aren't that important. Best to focus on your schoolwork and future career. And also to maintain your friendships with your male friends. Girls come and go but it's good to have your group of pals always there.
If you want to meet girls go clubbing or to bars and pubs with your friends and go up and be friendly with girls, don't necessarily have to flirt with them.
Joining a club is a good way to meet girls, or even just at work.
If all else fails just go on tinder.
At 19 girls aren't that important. Best to focus on your schoolwork and future career. And also to maintain your friendships with your male friends. Girls come and go but it's good to have your group of pals always there.
Original post by Anonymous
I'm in the same situation as the OP I'm 21 but never kissed or dated a female or have any female friends.
Anyone have any tips on what to do to get girls?
Anyone have any tips on what to do to get girls?
Same but 22
Original post by Anonymous
I'm in the same situation as the OP I'm 21 but never kissed or dated a female or have any female friends.
Anyone have any tips on what to do to get girls?
Anyone have any tips on what to do to get girls?
I know who this is lol
Original post by Anonymous
As in I dont text/hangout with girls outside of school. I have through my life had 5 crushes and no girlfriend. Im a 19y.o male still in college.
Is this bad? How can I fix it?
Is this bad? How can I fix it?
im basically like you. im really shy and i am worried about how i look. What you could do is talk to those in your class about work and then slowly build up. Also use social media. i made a really close friend as i accedentially added her and then from that on, i started replying to her snaps and from that im really good friends. Try to talk to the friendly girls and girls who are not so prestige and with this you can talk to their girl 'friends' to.
Original post by Anonymous
I'm in the same situation as the OP I'm 21 but never kissed or dated a female or have any female friends.
Anyone have any tips on what to do to get girls?
Anyone have any tips on what to do to get girls?
Get a job that makes you perform presentations, develop leadership skills, and forces you interact with a variety of people. These experiences will eventually permeate yourself to change your personality to be more confident and less inhibited, therefore you'll find talking to girls easier and you'll come across more relaxed and approachable. I worked for one year in a job that forced me to do all those things, I didn't realise it but I became less socially awkward and more confident in social situations.
Other things are important as well, eat well, exercise, dress well, get a good haircut, if you can't grow a good beard shave it all off, try to get as clear skin as possible, maintain high standards of personal hygiene, if you aren't interesting become intersting have hobbies, activities, and interests.
Like everything lads there is no formula to be good at talking to women and getting a girlfriend, no magic pill to swallow. You become adept at social interactions by practising. Try reflecting on good social interactions that you perform or see i.e. what made that situation a good example of conversation, and also reflect on bad social interactions that you perform or see i.e. what made that situation a bad example of conversation. That way you can learn from your successes and failures and put it into practice.
Oh btw if you do find a fix let me in on it
Original post by 22sgw
Get a job that makes you perform presentations, develop leadership skills, and forces you interact with a variety of people. These experiences will eventually permeate yourself to change your personality to be more confident and less inhibited, therefore you'll find talking to girls easier and you'll come across more relaxed and approachable. I worked for one year in a job that forced me to do all those things, I didn't realise it but I became less socially awkward and more confident in social situations.
Other things are important as well, eat well, exercise, dress well, get a good haircut, if you can't grow a good beard shave it all off, try to get as clear skin as possible, maintain high standards of personal hygiene, if you aren't interesting become intersting have hobbies, activities, and interests.
Like everything lads there is no formula to be good at talking to women and getting a girlfriend, no magic pill to swallow. You become adept at social interactions by practising. Try reflecting on good social interactions that you perform or see i.e. what made that situation a good example of conversation, and also reflect on bad social interactions that you perform or see i.e. what made that situation a bad example of conversation. That way you can learn from your successes and failures and put it into practice.
Other things are important as well, eat well, exercise, dress well, get a good haircut, if you can't grow a good beard shave it all off, try to get as clear skin as possible, maintain high standards of personal hygiene, if you aren't interesting become intersting have hobbies, activities, and interests.
Like everything lads there is no formula to be good at talking to women and getting a girlfriend, no magic pill to swallow. You become adept at social interactions by practising. Try reflecting on good social interactions that you perform or see i.e. what made that situation a good example of conversation, and also reflect on bad social interactions that you perform or see i.e. what made that situation a bad example of conversation. That way you can learn from your successes and failures and put it into practice.
yeah and no fap, quiting masturbation and porn is a powerful way to make changes. imo brain thinks it’s no longer reproduce therefore makes changes like increase social confidence to increase chances of finding a mate and reproducing again
Original post by Nice2KnoU
It's not bad. If you want to find someone then try online, since it's easier to communicate and find the right person.
It might take some time, but it's worth it. I was the same as you, It took me over two years to find this girl I'm talking to right now, after going through two previous ones that had serious issues, and we're pretty sure it'll go well.
It's just about patience, trial & error and taking the time to determine whether that person is for you, and that you are for them. Don't rush.
You'll find someone someday, I thought I wouldn't and look at me now!
Even though my example was about relationships, it still applies to friends in the same way.
It might take some time, but it's worth it. I was the same as you, It took me over two years to find this girl I'm talking to right now, after going through two previous ones that had serious issues, and we're pretty sure it'll go well.
It's just about patience, trial & error and taking the time to determine whether that person is for you, and that you are for them. Don't rush.
You'll find someone someday, I thought I wouldn't and look at me now!
Even though my example was about relationships, it still applies to friends in the same way.
tbh I find messaging girls online to be much harder, on Instagram they can just ignore you
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