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    Basically my parents only care about grades. They expect me to achieve straight As at A level and quite honestly I’m feeling the pressure. It’s horrible. I’ve had my phone taken off me, I can’t go out with friends, I can’t do hobbies I love anymore. Everything has taken a backseat apart from results, they don’t care about my wellbeing at all. I’ve tried all ways of explaining and it’s not working... I can’t deal at all. I don’t know who to turn to, reading from a textbook for 10h a day is destroying me. I just can’t anymore.
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    Hey, I'm here for you if you ever need to talk

    It's okay to take a break once in a while, and your parents seem to be controlling which is frustrating. If you can talk to them and maybe explain how hard it is, then try. I guess try and be as assertive as you can, but if they don't listen you can always talk to childline online. I'd highly recommend trying to talk to a teacher about stuff, trust me, don't undermine how powerful pastoral support is.

    Try do something you like, I know you said you can't, but perhaps is there something that can make it any easier? Like reading a book you love or taking a bath? It's the little things that matter.

    What year are you in? And I'm in year 12 do pm me if you need it
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    Discuss with your parents that you need appropriate breaks from studying, and that your grades aren't the only thing that will help you get in to your desired university. Explain that your hobbies are also part of your application process, and regular breaks will help you study better.
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    from my mom: tell to your parents that you can spend a lot of time doing nothing but pretending you study, you can create the illusion you read a book but actually thinking in the clouds, somewhere else, you could lie them you work very hard; ask them if they would be happy.
    They should trust you that you are responsible for your future and you will do your best.

    This was said by my mom. Show this to your parents.


    Personally, when I was in my A Level, my parents permitted me everything, phone, social life, hobbies, and I ended up with 5 A*, because I could not imagine making them dissapointed.
    Good luck!
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    (Original post by btecbiochemistry)
    Hey, I'm here for you if you ever need to talk

    It's okay to take a break once in a while, and your parents seem to be controlling which is frustrating. If you can talk to them and maybe explain how hard it is, then try. I guess try and be as assertive as you can, but if they don't listen you can always talk to childline online. I'd highly recommend trying to talk to a teacher about stuff, trust me, don't undermine how powerful pastoral support is.

    Try do something you like, I know you said you can't, but perhaps is there something that can make it any easier? Like reading a book you love or taking a bath? It's the little things that matter.

    What year are you in? And I'm in year 12 do pm me if you need it
    Thank you for your support ❤️ And yes, I’m Year 12 too
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    (Original post by the_queen)
    from my mom: tell to your parents that you can spend a lot of time doing nothing but pretending you study, you can create the illusion you read a book but actually thinking in the clouds, somewhere else, you could lie them you work very hard; ask them if they would be happy.
    They should trust you that you are responsible for your future and you will do your best.

    This was said by my mom. Show this to your parents.


    Personally, when I was in my A Level, my parents permitted me everything, phone, social life, hobbies, and I ended up with 5 A*, because I could not imagine making them dissapointed.
    Good luck!
    Well done on your results, they’re impeccable! And aha tell your mother thank you from me
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    Sorry to hear this.

    Tell your parents you are trying your best and other things matter too which will aid your education and well being such as going out, having your phone etc.

    I agree talk to your teacher or pastoral care about this stuff.

    Take care and good luck
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    become a hikkikomori
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    I'm here for you. Tell them your productivity is going down and you can't retain the information without breaks and relaxing your mind.

    Even then remember that you haven't got long till you are done
 
 
 
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