Feeling bad that my girlfriend pays for everything

I'm not working at the moment but even when I did, my boyfriend still earned a lot more than what I did. So I pay for all the food shopping, meals out (apart from birthdays where the other pays and Valentines where we split), days out, things for the house, all cat related things like their food, insurance, litter etc and he takes care of the mortgage and bills etc. I also do all the cooking, cleaning, washing, ironing as well to show my appreciation.

As long as you're honest with each other and can communicate about things, you'll be fine. Express that you appreciate everything she does for you money-wise but that you feel guilty, ask if there's anything to do that can help her out if not financially.

Hi,

Why don't you have an arrangement to make a token payment towards things like rent / mortgage? You could also contribute to things like bills, council tax or take on some yourself (e.g. electricity)? Could buy the food / drink or be responsible for paying to go out?

Alternatively, you could make a point of taking her out / treating her once a week / month or whatever is convinient for you. Can also take her out on your own terms (take her to somewhere that is your choice to go).

I think that would also send a message to her parents that you're not a sponger

Hope that helps

Like you say she had all the luck in life - if she wants to treat you let her. She probably gets pleasure out of it. That's not in any way you sponging, if you had the money you would do it too.

Since she will be paying your rent, you should do other stuff, may be like cleaning up and also just like what @Old Skool Freak said. Also, you should discuss it with her about how you feel about this situation. It’s easy to say I know but there’s nothing better than discussing with her.

I broke up with boyfriend last year partly because I guess he was feeling just like how you feel all the time and I didn’t know. So, it didn’t work out in the end.

Just make sure that love doesn’t become responsibility or guilt. Otherwise, it will be very hard in a long run.

You've got an amazing girlfriend.

Well given her background this is likely to be her life forever... she will always have more money than you. You need to decide if you can be OK with her treating you or if it's too much, in which case you may just not be compatible.

I'm not working at the moment but even when I did, my boyfriend still earned a lot more than what I did. So I pay for all the food shopping, meals out (apart from birthdays where the other pays and Valentines where we split), days out, things for the house, all cat related things like their food, insurance, litter etc and he takes care of the mortgage and bills etc. I also do all the cooking, cleaning, washing, ironing as well to show my appreciation.

As long as you're honest with each other and can communicate about things, you'll be fine. Express that you appreciate everything she does for you money-wise but that you feel guilty, ask if there's anything to do that can help her out if not financially.

Talk to her about it! If you’re feeling uncomfortable about this she needs to know, honestly If she knows you well enough then she’ll know that you would pay if you could. Perhaps treat her with things that don’t cost money? Long walks, homemade dinner etc - in essence it’s even more romantic than spoiling her with money! Don’t worry about it

She sounds like a really sweet girl and there are very few people in the world like this. You could try finding a better job, go to uni and get a good degree and work your way up. As long as your trying to contribute and help, it seems enough for her as at least your trying. Some people would just lounge off their partners money. Keep her close to you and treat her right and she’ll be happy 🌺. She fell for you and you fell for her for a reason. Don’t overthink it as when you do it could start creating problems in your relationship. She must know about your background so she must know that it’s difficult for you. Just be grateful that you have a girl like her and treat her like a princess 👸🏽 remember giving people money or expensive gifts isn’t the only way to make them feel special. For instance, making breakfast in the morning for your partner is a much more romantic gesture in my opinion and these small things are the ones that you remember for life ☀️🌸

Like you say she had all the luck in life - if she wants to treat you let her. She probably gets pleasure out of it. That's not in any way you sponging, if you had the money you would do it too.

She sounds like a really sweet girl and there are very few people in the world like this. You could try finding a better job, go to uni and get a good degree and work your way up. As long as your trying to contribute and help, it seems enough for her as at least your trying. Some people would just lounge off their partners money. Keep her close to you and treat her right and she’ll be happy 🌺. She fell for you and you fell for her for a reason. Don’t overthink it as when you do it could start creating problems in your relationship. She must know about your background so she must know that it’s difficult for you. Just be grateful that you have a girl like her and treat her like a princess 👸🏽 remember giving people money or expensive gifts isn’t the only way to make them feel special. For instance, making breakfast in the morning for your partner is a much more romantic gesture in my opinion and these small things are the ones that you remember for life ☀️🌸

All the luck? Just cause someone was paid to go to Private school doesn't mean much they still need to work hard? Guess completing a Masters is pretty damn lucky lol

All the luck? Just cause someone was paid to go to Private school doesn't mean much they still need to work hard? Guess completing a Masters is pretty damn lucky lol

Oh she doesn't have a job.

My girlfriend has now finished university having just completed her masters and has said to me she is planning to find herself apartment once she's found a job that her parents will pay for her. She also suggested that I could move in with her, so tells me she is really committed to be with me.

My parents would NEVER be able to afford a place for me, that tells me she's a bit above most people in class. LOL.