Indian girl dating guy - forbidden?

I've recently started seeing this guy - he's really lovely but I've discovered that his surname is the same as my mum's maiden name. Whilst my family are very modern they still have their traditional values so I'm not sure if this is a deal breaker, and whether it could actually lead to anything serious...as it could be that we are related somewhere way down the line (although this is VERY unlikely). And if we were to get married, for example, I'd end up with the same surname as all of my mum's family which would be strange.
If anyone, esp. Asians that may have more experience/be better informed than me, could offer some insight and advice as to whether this is actually a big deal that would be great ..
I'm not sure if I should stop seeing him now before it gets too late :frown:

Reply 1

NoEaze

12

Original post by itisavibe

I've recently started seeing this guy - he's really lovely but I've discovered that his surname is the same as my mum's maiden name. Whilst my family are very modern they still have their traditional values so I'm not sure if this is a deal breaker, and whether it could actually lead to anything serious...as it could be that we are related somewhere way down the line (although this is VERY unlikely). And if we were to get married, for example, I'd end up with the same surname as all of my mum's family which would be strange.
If anyone, esp. Asians that may have more experience/be better informed than me, could offer some insight and advice as to whether this is actually a big deal that would be great ..
I'm not sure if I should stop seeing him now before it gets too late :frown:

if you like him then you should see him, you can still have a good relationship without rushing to get married, like you can go out and enjoy each others company.

Reply 2

ANM775

20

What's the problem? Am I missing something here?

I thought Indians married their first cousins like all the time...

Reply 3

username2560671

21

Original post by itisavibe

I've recently started seeing this guy - he's really lovely but I've discovered that his surname is the same as my mum's maiden name. Whilst my family are very modern they still have their traditional values so I'm not sure if this is a deal breaker, and whether it could actually lead to anything serious...as it could be that we are related somewhere way down the line (although this is VERY unlikely). And if we were to get married, for example, I'd end up with the same surname as all of my mum's family which would be strange.
If anyone, esp. Asians that may have more experience/be better informed than me, could offer some insight and advice as to whether this is actually a big deal that would be great ..
I'm not sure if I should stop seeing him now before it gets too late :frown:

Omggg, how can you just break a relationship like that only because of a surname issue!? You shouldn't worry too much about this. Your boyfriend can always change his surname.

Reply 4

Gax

16

lmao you're basically going out with your relative, i don't think i could go out with someone who's got my mum's maiden name. to me that sounds a bit like going out with a girl with the same name as my sister...yuck :puke:

Reply 5

ANM775

20

Original post by Gax

lmao you're basically going out with your relative, i don't think i could go out with someone who's got my mum's maiden name. to me that sounds a bit like going out with a girl with the same name as my sister...yuck

I took a girls number once, she then said her name and I entered it into my phone

she then said "whoa, you know how to spell my name, nobody ever knows how to spell my name. How come you got it?"

me "My mothers got the same name, so it was easy"

*Awkward silence*.........

Reply 6

itisavibe

OP

6

Original post by ANM775

What's the problem? Am I missing something here?

I thought Indians married their first cousins like all the time...

No, Indians don't and have never done that.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

Original post by itisavibe

I've recently started seeing this guy - he's really lovely but I've discovered that his surname is the same as my mum's maiden name. Whilst my family are very modern they still have their traditional values so I'm not sure if this is a deal breaker, and whether it could actually lead to anything serious...as it could be that we are related somewhere way down the line (although this is VERY unlikely). And if we were to get married, for example, I'd end up with the same surname as all of my mum's family which would be strange.
If anyone, esp. Asians that may have more experience/be better informed than me, could offer some insight and advice as to whether this is actually a big deal that would be great ..
I'm not sure if I should stop seeing him now before it gets too late :frown:

I wouldn't worry about that my mum and dad both had the same surname before marriage and they weren't related so I think it should be fine :smile:

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

My mum and dad had the same surname before marriage and they aren't related whatsoever! I don't think you should worry about it that much. Why would you end it because of a maiden name being the same unless you are like related then you should think about it :smile:

Reply 9

itisavibe

OP

6

Original post by Anonymous

My mum and dad had the same surname before marriage and they aren't related whatsoever! I don't think you should worry about it that much. Why would you end it because of a maiden name being the same unless you are like related then you should think about it :smile:

Thank you, this is reassuring!! :smile:

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