I've known my current boyfriend for over a year and been in a relationship with him for three months.
I love him. He's funny, clever, unique and good looking. I have no problem with actual sexual/physical attraction to him.
We tried to get together a year ago, but we worked together and our workplace found out so we had to stop things. In that year, my very manipulative friend (no longer friends) told him I had no feelings for him and slept with several times. He told me about this a few days into our relationship which made things quite hostile but he was very honest and open to a detailed conversation about it. Ever since, we've been fine and have a happy relationship.
Although when it comes to sex, I feel very awkward and uncomfortable. Neither of us have super high sex drives so sometimes I avoid sleeping with him. I find it incredibly difficult to relax. It's almost as if my mind is telling me that he's sexually attractive and I want to sleep with him, but my body won't let it happen and telling me that my brain is lying. Essentially, it's like when you're very cold in the winter: your brain may try and convince your body that it's warmer than it is, but your body is still shivering.
Anyone experienced something similar? It's got to the point where I need to talk to him about it openly. But is this a barrier to an otherwise happy relationship? Will the lack of intimacy be the end of our relationship?