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Am I bad at giving blowjobs or are they overrated?

I would be very grateful if you read this.
My boyfriend and me are both virgins. We had oral first about a month ago and then a couple of times since. He has given me instructions on what to do and what feels good to him. Last time it took almost an hour until he orgasmed. I tried to to my best, tried every speed, depth, stimulated his inner thighs, his testicles, changed to handjob while kissing him and everything he told me but I had to finish it with my hand because otherwise he couldn't have come. He tried to tell me what to do and I did it too but it just wasn't really effective compared to handjobs. He said it was good but not that good he thought it would be, that i made him very happy but he expected more from recieving blowjobs. Also he doesn't have any experience in this so he didn't know what should I really do or what should it feel. I feel bad and I can't decide if he's not really into it or if I am just doing it wrong.

Reply 1

JTfoxlove

He probably just got a little bit of stage fright (climaxing from oral is quite a new experience) or might simply prefer what he's more used to. Hand jobs are also very different from oral sex as the giver generally has more control.

Sounds like you did a great job. Nothing to worry about from either side. :smile:

(edited 5 years ago)

Reply 2

candyx01

Don't feel bad! Obviously this is a new experience for him so maybe he's just getting used to the sensation. I feel like porn is largely to blame for people's unrealistic expectations of sex too but that's a story for another time. Just enjoy the moment and get more comfortable with each other - it can take time for you both to figure out what you like - explore and enjoy the journey :P

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Thank you so much for your answers!
I'm so relieved to read these compared to the answers I was given on another website.
We discussed the whole thing yesterday and he was so sweet. He said I did nothing wrong, I would never do, and he enjoyed it and everything's alright. Now I feel right about it thanks to him. The pest person in my life I could ever ask for.