My boyfriend doesn’t treat me with respect

I’ve been with my boyfriend for just over a year, I’m 20 he’s 21, our birthdays both in may. Since I met him I’ve known he’s socially abnormal, he doesn’t understand social cues and often offends people. He’s done several weird things like at the beginning of the relationship he would comment on my weight jokingly which I didn’t find funny, He eventually stopped after me asking but he makes “oooo” noises if we see someone pretty to irritate me, but most recently I was staying at his house for a few days while everyone else was away it was just us in the house. His mum asked him if he wanted to go to his grandmas for Sunday lunch and he said yes (didn’t tell me or ask me) after his night shift he got me a sandwich for while he was away and then the next day he went to his grandmas and left me at his house for 2 hours (I can’t drive) then we had to go to Kent to see his aunties, when his mum and dad got there they told everyone what he’d done and they were mortified and his own grandma asked me why I’m with him and I laughed and she said no seriously why are you putting up with this.. I explained to him I felt it was weird and it seems like he just didn’t want me there but he says he didn’t want to impose on his grandma which his own mother said is rubbish because she’s wouldnt of minded.. I’m not bothered about the dinner I’m bothered that he left me at his house like a dog and thinks he can pick me up and drop me when he wants.. if we go anywhere he doesn’t hold my hand or kiss me or hug me.. we got back today from Kent and he said he wants a break but not a proper break just time apart because he’s doing his uni work ready to finish in may and wants to be on the break till then (so will be missing each others birthdays which I find a weird thing to want to do) I keep hoping it will change if I keep telling him but I feel like maybe it won’t and I don’t know what to do

he sounds autistic not picking up on social cues n all

You deserve better, I am not here to break your relationship or something along the lines of this. But if he finds something funny that you do not really have much in common. If he does not understand social humor, then that is something that you should be attempting to talk about. He should have discussed with you, and made arrangements with you about travelling and leaving you on your own and/or not taking you with him to his grans. But, you should talk to him about this problem and improve the way that you discuss things. Make it more regular that you are arranging things together and making importnat decisions like this, so that you are both comfortable with this. Nobody, is forcing you to stay with him, but please do not make the mistake of not trying to fix issues before giving up on him. #Hang On In There

If you have anymore questions, please do not hesitate to ask!

I have thought about that but he can be so horrible, he says he’s stressed but the things he does don’t seem related to stress they just seem horrible and unthoughtful.. the other week I unplugged his charger while he was driving because mine was on 2% and I didn’t see the problem as he always uses my charger without asking and he pulled the charger called me a dumb **** and flung my £1000+ phone at me

I have thought about that but he can be so horrible, he says he’s stressed but the things he does don’t seem related to stress they just seem horrible and unthoughtful.. the other week I unplugged his charger while he was driving because mine was on 2% and I didn’t see the problem as he always uses my charger without asking and he pulled the charger called me a dumb **** and flung my £1000+ phone at me

and he is still your 'boyfriend' why havent u dumped his ass...

I don't know about that maybe he is not treating you the way that you are wanting him too. He seems like he is a bully or he thinks that he has some kind of control over you. Does he not understand that relationships are based in commitment not dominance? Has he been in a relationship before?

Does he have any history of mental health problems or anger management issues?
I used to know a guy who behaved in this way, he was on medication and had been sectioned twice by the age of 21.

Is that what you would do? I feel like I want to try and fix it people make mistakes I don’t know

Is that what you would do? I feel like I want to try and fix it people make mistakes I don’t know

Is that what you would do? I feel like I want to try and fix it people make mistakes I don’t know

his own grandma asked me why I’m with him and I laughed and she said no seriously why are you putting up with this...

I got out of an abusive relationship about 4 years ago and I stayed single for 3 years and became really strong and said I would never let anyone make me feel like this but now I’m sat begging someone for their affection and love and attention and I feel like I’m there again (without the abuse)