Virgin at 20, 21.

I'm a 20 year old guy, turning 21 in November.

I've never even kissed a girl, been in a relationship etc.

I have quite low self-esteem/self-worth and stuff so I find it quite hard finding the confidence talking to girls.

My friends describe me as being funny and nice, and I've been on tinder and had 30ish matches and generally I think I'm around average looks-wise.

Anyway, I'm really scared I'm gonna end up dying alone and I'm so ashamed of myself and embarrassed that I'm a virgin, my 3 friends that I live with are all in relationships and it's hard not to get down in the dumps when they all have their gf's around the flat.

It just kinda validates the thoughts of worthlessness and stuff I have.

Any advice?

Why are there so many of these "I am still a virgin at [insert age]" threads being made atm. Like what can we do??

No one cares if you're a virgin

Why are there so many of these "I am still a virgin at [insert age]" threads being made atm. Like what can we do??

I asked for advice, I understand if you don't have any, but if so no one compels you to click on them and leave comments.

I was making statement because there have been so many of these threads be spewed out on here atm. At that is the problem. Instead of posting about it online, go out and do something about it.

I was making statement because there have been so many of these threads being spewed out on here atm. At that is the problem. Instead of posting about it online, go out and do something about it.

If these threads

A) bother you and

B) the best you have to offer is "go out and do something about it", then I honestly have no idea why you devote time to reading/engaging with them. Clearly these stress you out and your time would be better spent on something else?

I'm not going to apologise for wanting advice in an anonymous format where maybe there are people who have experienced something similar who could help.

I'm a 20 year old guy, turning 21 in November.

I've never even kissed a girl, been in a relationship etc.

I have quite low self-esteem/self-worth and stuff so I find it quite hard finding the confidence talking to girls.

My friends describe me as being funny and nice, and I've been on tinder and had 30ish matches and generally I think I'm around average looks-wise.

Anyway, I'm really scared I'm gonna end up dying alone and I'm so ashamed of myself and embarrassed that I'm a virgin, my 3 friends that I live with are all in relationships and it's hard not to get down in the dumps when they all have their gf's around the flat.

It just kinda validates the thoughts of worthlessness and stuff I have.

Any advice?

Why are you so sensitive about it? Just relax. I am not seeking your apology. I have seen so many of these threads made and you won't get any useful advice on here, just people also saying they are twenty something and still a virgin. The best thing you can do to solve this problem is to go out and interact with people, it is really that simple, thats how I did it. Posting on the 'The Student Room' will not help you.

That might have been do-able five years ago. However these days as everything is driven by the algorithm on a smart phone and people refuse to move outside their little circles, doing an approach isn't really encouraged. If you arent in the university/college ghetto it will be nigh on impossible to score anything if you arent getting anything on Tinder etc...My best advice to the OP is just to go for p4p in eastern europe/se asia and if you are lucky you may not even have to pay.

That might have been do-able five years ago. However these days as everything is driven by the algorithm on a smart phone and people refuse to move outside their little circles, doing an approach isn't really encouraged. If you arent in the university/college ghetto it will be nigh on impossible to score anything if you arent getting anything on Tinder etc...My best advice to the OP is just to go for p4p in eastern europe/se asia and if you are lucky you may not even have to pay.

Lol. Have you actually ever approached a girl?

That might have been do-able five years ago. However these days as everything is driven by the algorithm on a smart phone and people refuse to move outside their little circles, doing an approach isn't really encouraged. If you arent in the university/college ghetto it will be nigh on impossible to score anything if you arent getting anything on Tinder etc...My best advice to the OP is just to go for p4p in eastern europe/se asia and if you are lucky you may not even have to pay.

That might have been do-able five years ago. However these days as everything is driven by the algorithm on a smart phone and people refuse to move outside their little circles, doing an approach isn't really encouraged. If you arent in the university/college ghetto it will be nigh on impossible to score anything if you arent getting anything on Tinder etc...My best advice to the OP is just to go for p4p in eastern europe/se asia and if you are lucky you may not even have to pay.