I feel no pleasure during sex- what's happening?

So I've recently lost my virginity to the most amazing guy and he's so concerned that I feel no pleasure during sex- and he doesn't want to do anything that means I get no pleasure out of it so we're trying to find the reason.

It hurts for a bit whist I get used to it and then i can just feel him moving like i don't get much pleasure from it if any i don't get it! I dont even feel pleasure when he sucks my nipples which he does quite a bit. Like idk.

Anyone have any ideas what this is? We've had sex 5 times

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Focus on clitoral stimulation. If you don't understand what that is Google it.

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Anonymous #1

Original post by sinfonietta

Focus on clitoral stimulation. If you don't understand what that is Google it.

I know what it is but thanks for the tip actually didn't think of that

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Anonymous #2

When I lost my virginity it took a long time for me to actually enjoy having sex. It would hurt usually because I was so tight, and we did almost no foreplay so I wasn't really wet.

I've found that what makes me feel better is making sure I am comfortable/having a good intimate connection with my partner and have done foreplay.