So my ex and I broke up last year June and he initiated it, but I'm still not over him even though it's been almost a year. After the break up, we continued talking and tried to be friends but I know this was a bad idea as it just made it harder to let go. We were even occasionally sleeping together for a few months afterwards (another bad idea). The last time I saw him was in January, nearly 4 months ago. I told him then that I didn't want to stay in contact anymore as I was struggling to move on and he respected that but we still exchanged texts every few weeks.
The reason we broke up was because he was struggling with his mental health and it was negatively affecting our relationship. He felt like he was no longer himself anymore and didn't want to keep hurting me. But when we were together, I was the happiest I've ever been and I'm struggling to get past it. A part of me is still hoping we will eventually get back together once his mental health improves, or he will change his mind and realise he needs me. I dated and slept with other guys after our breakup but none of them could fill the void he left in me.
I'm actually in a long distance relationship right now, but we've been on/off for the last 6 months (my fault because I can't get over my ex). Although even with my new boyfriend, I still miss my ex so much and I know that I don't love him the way I loved my ex.
My ex has told me he hasn't been with anyone else since we broke up but I also feel like he's not bothered about me moving on with someone else, he's just so selfless and would rather I was happy even if it wasn't with him. This only makes me want him even more. He was perfect, loving, caring, supportive, my first love and everything you could want in a boyfriend. Whenever I talk to him, I start to feel desperate to have him but he always says the same thing - he needs to sort himself/his life out and basically we can't be together.
I really want to move on and just forget about him and focus all my love and attention on my new boyfriend but I don't know how to (especially because it's a LDR). My ex is always on my mind and I miss our friendship as well as our relationship. I've had to remove our pictures and delete all our old messages but I've seen and read them over too much that they're engrained in my memory.
Another obstacle making it difficult to move on is that when we were together, my ex and I had an amazing relationship. We weren't just a couple, we were best friends. We told each other everything and he was the person I went to when I was happy or sad; he was by my side at my best and also at my worst. He made me a better, stronger person and he was the best thing that ever happened to me. Losing him felt like losing a best friend as well as a boyfriend.
I really don't know how to continue the rest of my life without him. I'm not depressed or anything and I feel happy with my life in general - I have a good job, new relationship, friends, hobbies - but I don't know if I will ever be able to get over my ex. Please help.