Worried about loosing my uni friends after 3rd year

Hello,I am a second year student about to start third year and ive been crying for the past 30 mins worried that when I Finnish uni I won't be able to see my friends as often. I live in Hertfordshire and go to Newcastle uni so all my friends live in the north, I dont really have any friends where I live apart from my uni ones who ive lived with in 1st, 2nd and soon to be 3rd year. Its just dawned upon me that soon we will be finished our uni journey. Nearly everyone I speak to says they slowly lost contact and stopped being in contact with their uni friends and end up talking maybe a couple times a month through social media. My friend who graduated last year also said the last day together is really hard. I hate saying goodbye anyway and ive never had friends this close before. I dont speak to anyone really from primary or secondary school but I haven't felt this close to people so it has never really bothered me before. I also feel a bit of pressure to try and make my last year count and not waste the little time we have left.

Reply 1

Nova1407

i totally get you! im about to goto Norhumbria uni and currently am at newcastle sixthform. although my best friends are going to the same uni they are not on the same course as me (both taking psychology). Maybe you could find somewhere to live closer to newcastle or halfway? Also not all friends drift apart. my old friend from highschool and i never spoke for a year and met up suddenly and it was like we'd never been apart. just because its not face to face doesnt make the friendship gone for good? please message me if you need someone to talk to 🤗

Reply 2

Pathway

Then make an effort to keep in contact. The thing is, as with any friendships, if they're made because you met in this same place (school, university, work, etc.) and that's the main/only place you socialise with them, they're likely to be friendships of convenience. If you want to retain them, then you have to make an effort to see them outside of the usual place and communicate with them often (this'll depend on your friendship, not everyone needs to talk daily/weekly to retain friends).

I've not kept any friends from university, but I still have a few from school.