No friends at university

Currently in my second year of university and I don’t have a single friend. As I made no friends I didn’t find a house so I’m living in halls again but everyone in my flat is extremely shy so they barely talk. Also due to this whole corona situation there’s pretty much no social aspect to uni so I’m stuck with my flat mates.
It’s honestly just really depressing as back home I’m quite sociable but when I go back to uni I’m a loner. To make things worse my best friends from back home all have large groups of friends that they’re living with and it seems like we’re drifting apart so I’m not even going to have friends when I go home soon.
I’ve only been back for a week and I’m ready to drop out, like this is the worst time to go to uni so any form of socialising is not going to happen so I’m stuck being a loner again. I just don’t know what to do as I can’t go through a whole year of having no friends.

Reply 1

999tigger

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Original post by Anonymous

Currently in my second year of university and I don’t have a single friend. As I made no friends I didn’t find a house so I’m living in halls again but everyone in my flat is extremely shy so they barely talk. Also due to this whole corona situation there’s pretty much no social aspect to uni so I’m stuck with my flat mates.
It’s honestly just really depressing as back home I’m quite sociable but when I go back to uni I’m a loner. To make things worse my best friends from back home all have large groups of friends that they’re living with and it seems like we’re drifting apart so I’m not even going to have friends when I go home soon.
I’ve only been back for a week and I’m ready to drop out, like this is the worst time to go to uni so any form of socialising is not going to happen so I’m stuck being a loner again. I just don’t know what to do as I can’t go through a whole year of having no friends.

How come you didnt make any friends first time round?
Havent you had time to think about all over the summer?
If you are going to drop out then drop out quickly before you incur liability and you would need to return your student loan money.

Are there any clubs and societies , even with social distancing?
Why not be the leader and have a house meeting so the shy people can have a cup of tea and piece of cake and you can try and inject some life into the flat?
Why not advertise for other people who want to make friends as you wont be the only one?

It boils down to either you have the determination and skills to make the most of the situation or you give up and go home. Flatmates are always random, but your lack of friends isnt something that happened this week its something you did in first year. Only you know whether you want to make an effort to make friends or you are going to suspend studies. If its the former then maybe build up your understanding of social skills if its the latter then do it quickly.

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Reply 2

abcdxyz22

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Original post by Anonymous

Currently in my second year of university and I don’t have a single friend. As I made no friends I didn’t find a house so I’m living in halls again but everyone in my flat is extremely shy so they barely talk. Also due to this whole corona situation there’s pretty much no social aspect to uni so I’m stuck with my flat mates.
It’s honestly just really depressing as back home I’m quite sociable but when I go back to uni I’m a loner. To make things worse my best friends from back home all have large groups of friends that they’re living with and it seems like we’re drifting apart so I’m not even going to have friends when I go home soon.
I’ve only been back for a week and I’m ready to drop out, like this is the worst time to go to uni so any form of socialising is not going to happen so I’m stuck being a loner again. I just don’t know what to do as I can’t go through a whole year of having no friends.

Firstly, I didn't make any friends in my first year. I made two close friends in my second through a society. I know with corona it will be harder to socialise but its still worth trying! Another good idea would be to see if your university has some kind of scheme to help students make friends. I'm volunteering this year to help on one of these schemes.

I've noticed that people sell university like its the best time ever. In reality they are also having a tough time. How many of their friends will they still talk to after uni?

If you do decide to drop out, don't view it as a failure. Maybe uni just isn't for you at the moment? I dropped out of one uni after a week and it was a great decision for me (but might not be for others). Do what you think is best!