why does everyone call you selfish for venting?

they invalidate your feelings and induce self hatred, and then people wonder why you did what you did to yourself?

I’m sorry you feel that way, I think if people do that to you when you vent, you perhaps aren’t venting to the right people. If you want to make sure you are talking to someone who can help, perhaps try a crisis line, that’s what they’re there for:
Childline: 0800 1111
Samaritans: 116 123
Shout: text SHOUT to 85258
Or if you don’t feel comfortable doing that you can always vent on here, there are plenty of people who can listen and try to help you feel better and understood.

guess what im going to see well being next week about my mental health

Yes Goldie!!! I’m so happy for you, I hope they are able to help you. Update me on how it goes if you would like

they invalidate your feelings and induce self hatred, and then people wonder why you did what you did to yourself?

There is nothing wrong with venting but it depends who you are offloading onto. If it is random strangers on an online forum then you kind of deserve what you get. No one likes a moaner. That said, if it is a close friend or family member then hopefully they will listen and help you.

I don’t think that’s true. Online, you can just navigate away if you don’t like hearing what someone’s telling you about. That doesn’t mean anyone ’’deserves what they get’’.