I would just like to open up this conversation topic as I’m curious as to what people’s opinions are around a situation I found myself in last year.
To be concise, when I joined my schools drama group last year I made loads of friends, one of which we are going to call Dylan.
Dylan was perfectly lovely, great in so many ways but I loved him as a friend.
I HAD NO ATTRACTION TO HIM ROMANTICALLY WHATSOEVER
However, Dylan eventually asked me out. It turns out he REALLY liked me.
I rejected him, and it was because he was too much of a friend but there’s another reason….
He was too short for me.
Or rather, I felt too tall.
I have always felt insecure about my height as I’m quite tall compared to my friends, I can’t think of anything worse than having a boyfriend that I was taller than; I would’ve felt too big and fat and just… YUCK.
When I say short, I mean Dylan is REALLY short. The shortest boy in our Year group.
So anyway, he eventually found out that his height was a component for my rejection and I feel so bad about it!! But I’m just not attracted to him, is it so bad that I rejected him? Surely I couldn’t date someone that I wasn’t attracted to?
Whenever I bring it up, I don’t think he understands that it is mainly to do with MY insecurity, not his appearance.
Thoughts?