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not rly met any friends at uni after 6 weeks

i live in uni accommodation with 2 english girls who have paired up and not my type (believe me) and 6 austrians who always speak in their own language even wen i try and talk 2 them and are just ignorant.
ppl in my class mainly live at home. I go salford uni and some travel from as far as southport!
i havent rly met any friends yet 2 go out, except 1 lad but he does a hard course so is always working recently so i dont really see him.

its really getting 2 me that I dont have any friends and evry1 else seems 2 make friends easily and go out clubbing,starting 2 fink there's somefing wrong wit me =[
any1 else feel this way or how long did it take u 2 settle into uni and find some friends?
ive hardly bin out yet and unis supposed 2 be the best time of your life but so far its not at all
its got 2 the point where i cant wait 2 go home at the weekend
Reply 1
Why not join some socs?
Reply 2
Aack
Why not join some socs?


Good advice. Going to soc meetings automatically puts you with "acquaintances", some of which you will be friends with. Then you might network into their group of friends etc.
i started to make proper friends duringg the second semester so things may start getting better then

really what you would need to do is get involved in something else that aint course related. I say that though i never have before its easy said than done really
Reply 4
join some socs.. and also.. just a crazy idea im throwing out there..
get the **** off TSR and off the net altogether, stop being a social recluse and just get out there and mingle.
Reply 5
Yusuf.T
join some socs.. and also.. just a crazy idea im throwing out there..
get the **** off TSR and off the net altogether, stop being a social recluse and just get out there and mingle.


If you have friends, then your advice is totally worthless.

We shall assume you do not.
Reply 6
Societies for the win, Cheese society always throws up some interesting characters :yep:
Reply 7
Aack
If you have friends, then your advice is totally worthless.

We shall assume you do not.

I do have friends.. and i got them by not sitting on TSR pouting and whinning about how i havent made any friends at uni.

get the **** out there and socialise for goodness sake!
Reply 8
Yusuf.T
I do have friends.. and i got them by not sitting on TSR pouting and whinning about how i havent made any friends at uni.

get the **** out there and socialise for goodness sake!


omg how sad r u, this is like the first time ive bin on this for weeks,
i do go out 2 the union and stuff.
im not the one scrolling with enough time 2 scroll through thousands of others questions and set out 2 offend them
Reply 9
indie.chick
omg how sad r u, this is like the first time ive bin on this for weeks,
i do go out 2 the union and stuff.
im not the one scrolling with enough time 2 scroll through thousands of others questions and set out 2 offend them

ok i get it now.. this is turning into a 'ur a sad git!'
'No you're the sad git' kinda thing.. seriously? i thought i grew outta that in year 10..11 max.. but ahh wells. I can sense i hit a nerve with you.. it kinda obvious from your teenage angsty reply..
instead of pouting and trying to 'cuss' me.. why dont you go to that union of yours and socialise? beats being on here on a monday night. :smile:
Rubix
Societies for the win, Cheese society always throws up some interesting characters :yep:


oooooh I wanna be in a cheese society :biggrin:
Reply 11
anothergirl182
that is just plain awful, shes on here for ADVICE not to made fun of.
what do you expect her to do, go down to the union on her own and stand there waitin for someone to say hi be my friend?!?! get real

OP i can totally empathise. i cant wait to go home at weekends either. but my flat mates are cool, but 2 are best friends from last year (im a first year) so thats hard. i'd try societies, but the ones at my uni are rubbish, hope they're better where you are!

The problem with you and OP are that you both are so fatalistic.. you're both like
'OMG i hate it here, i can't wait to go home!!' Its like WTF.. you're at uni and you're not even trying.. you are just running back to mummy and daddy and you're comfort zone.. you guys aren't eve TRYING to sort out you problems.. you're just running away from them. If you stay the way you are and dont bother putting yourself out there i can see a
'not rly met any friends at uni and im graduating next week'
thread soon.
Reply 12
anothergirl182
that is just plain awful, shes on here for ADVICE not to made fun of.
what do you expect her to do, go down to the union on her own and stand there waitin for someone to say hi be my friend?!?! get real

OP i can totally empathise. i cant wait to go home at weekends either. but my flat mates are cool, but 2 are best friends from last year (im a first year) so thats hard. i'd try societies, but the ones at my uni are rubbish, hope they're better where you are!


no theyre *****, thats y i havent joined, they're like the christian,islamic, international societies, nuffin rly that fun
and had a bunch of 8 foreigners come from next door and trash our dining room 2nite, girls in this house werent happy and there was argueing for hours.
not nice living here
Reply 13
Stick it out, you'll make friends in time :wink:
Reply 14
Rubix
Societies for the win, Cheese society always throws up some interesting characters :yep:

I saw "Cheese Soc" and though "hmm I wonder if he's at Imperial". Then I saw your sig and my suspicions were confirmed :biggrin:
Join the absolute club...

I came to uni on the 29th of september and have yet to make one single friend. When i first got here, I said hi to every single person i saw, because they're all foreign and don't speak very good english (ohh i dont care its not racist) they just said "hi" and walked away or carried on talking to the other person in their own language. I had a crackin conversation with one girl and I said we should get everyone on our floor together to have a party, she said yeah what a great idea! That night, she's got about ten people in the communal kitchen and hasn't said a thing to me.

Saying "get off the internet and get a life" is ******* ridiculous advice because what, ok log off and then - pace up and down the hallway and harass everyone to be your mate? No, maybe that works on your first couple of days but when on the first couple of days, every single person you meet doesn't understand, or want, to talk to you, it gets a bit stupid.

I hate university and it makes me sick the thought of going back there. Everyone says I could try harder, ooh go out andtalk to people, just shut up i've tried that and no one looks twice at me after they say hi and walk off. I went two weeks, without having a face to face conversation with anyone. It ***** with your head and ruins your relationships back home. So no one tell me i'm not trying.

OP I completely understand.
Yusuf.T
join some socs.. and also.. just a crazy idea im throwing out there..
get the **** off TSR and off the net altogether, stop being a social recluse and just get out there and mingle.

It's nearly 2AM, Goddammit! I doubt that now is the time for 'mingling'.
Join some clubs and see what happens.
Reply 18
I'm gonna have to add my support for joining clubs; they're a great way of meeting people. Most of my friends at first were people who overlapped with my course and my clubs. :smile:

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