Sorry if this is all mumble jumbled. It may be a little weird time wise but its why I’m trying to give dates 😊
and sorry for typos, gotta sleep soon for work ;(
I've (24m) known this girl (ik this gonna sound bad but i think 23, cant remember but she around 23ish) since 2021 from an old job I used to work at. I left the job towards the end of 2021, and we didn't really meet up (maybe 1-3 times) but we would text/snap/ be in contact a decent amount.
Since January I've started to catch feelings for her, and we recently met up last Saturday (15th) after she sent me a text saying she had been thinking about me and wanted to meet up before she goes to university out of London, and we went on a date. It was rly rly rly rly fun. We didn't rly plan much other than the cinema and didn’t think about after the movie so it kind of got a little bit dry afterwards as I couldn’t relax and talk normally, but unfortunately and fortunately her cat came in rescue and got in an accident (he is okay, her brother got worried cos he was acting weird) and caused the date to stop, which saved us from the dryness it had. (I don’t mean this in a bad way it’s just I was worried she was getting bored and tried to make small talk but kept fumbling).
Me and her texted after and she said she had fun, complimented me, and said she wanted to meet up again before I go holiday next week (31st). A few days ago (18th), I asked if she free she going to friends she said and won’t be back till 1-week later Friday (28th). I then asked her about 2 days ago what she want to do (maybe 22nd can’t remember exactly) and she saying she going to stay another week. It kind of felt like she is avoiding me but in the 2 I’ve known her she has never done this or talked about doing stuff like this before.
Things that have happened that make me think she does like me though:
- She has drunk texted me saying she likes me etc, but this was during 2022.
- She wants to make more plans even after the date and generally during 2022 and 2023 we both have been saying to hangout but never had aligned work schedules.
- My female friends at work have read some snippets of my chats with her and do say somethings up.
But idk im dense asf, whats a women?
I want to see how she feels but I don’t know how to go around this. Is she ignoring me? Does she hate me? Is she just scared or thinking? Like I don’t know and I’m overthinking like crazy to the point where I woke up at 2 am and just walked around thinking how to ask her about this stuff.
Part of me just wants me to say how I feel but I don’t want to ruin the friendship in case she rly does just see me as a friend, my friend I should try tell her but im scared.
Any advice with this is good advice, so thank you in advance.