Girlfriend went on only fans to look at a girl she knows personally.

My (23f) girlfriend (29f) told me that she went on a girls onlyfans that she’s friends with the other day. She said this girl has also asked her to “work” with her and another girl at some point before we started dating, but she turned her down. Am I just being stupid by overthinking this? She said she was just curious to have a peek. I don’t care if she checks out other girls or watches porn or anything like that, it’s just bothered me because she knows this girl and this girl has shown interest in her before. She also told me this girl is straight and then said “well I guess she must be bisexual”

Just seems to give me a gut feeling that makes me feel off. My gf seemed to think it made it better that she told me and didn’t keep it a secret, but I think I’d have preferred if I didn’t know tbh.

(edited 1 year ago)

Reply 1

Muttly

It's a strange one because you presumably know your gf better than the descriptive words we assess in these written posts?

I make no differentiation between being 'open' in a relationship or expecting your gf to be monogamous - If you undertake behaviour in a relationship that offends your partner or makes them feel like cr%p then honestly, you just wouldn't do it.

However your behaviour is to the point of controlling your gf then there is a problem (this is the other way round)

I don't think you are overthinking this. At this stage you should be considering your gf 100% and vice versa. The age difference isn't so much an issue as whether it has given her a sense of power and she is acting out to gain adoration from others (including you) I know you probably won't like my answer but I think she thinks more of herself than of you. I'm sure if you were to discuss leaving she would put on a great show of distress, but deep down she is playing you, wants you to change your mind and stay with her. If it was a man you would say he is 'playing' the field.

Please do put your own needs first, and have the confidence to leave this woman to her own devices. Imagine if you had that relationship with someone who gives you time and space, but whom you can trust absolutely. You can both agree what makes your relationship and this is key you will feel on cloud 9.

Here's to cloud 9's.