Is this a reasonable feeling?

Is it reasonable to feel like you just don't want to talk to your significant other when they're out and about or are just busy in general? I feel like I'd rather not wait 30 minutes between each text; just rather wait till later that night to talk.

Reasonable vs unreasonable seems like an odd way of looking at it. I would think it is normal to not bother someone when they're busy.

E.g. my girlfriend was out with friends 12pm-5pm today. The only message I sent her was asking if she could pick up OJ on her way home. There were other things I could have messaged her about, but they weren't urgent so I just waited until later.

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Reply 2

Lwexi12

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17

Original post by 1582

Reasonable vs unreasonable seems like an odd way of looking at it. I would think it is normal to not bother someone when they're busy.

E.g. my girlfriend was out with friends 12pm-5pm today. The only message I sent her was asking if she could pick up OJ on her way home. There were other things I could have messaged her about, but they weren't urgent so I just waited until later.

its more of like i think they feel bad they have been out all weekend and what not, so they're trying to talk to me...like conversation...while there also trying to hang out with friends at the mall and etc. Its just that when I text back they take another 30 min to text me back

Reply 3

xox416

14

Original post by Lwexi12

its more of like i think they feel bad they have been out all weekend and what not, so they're trying to talk to me...like conversation...while there also trying to hang out with friends at the mall and etc. Its just that when I text back they take another 30 min to text me back

It's texting, that's the point- its perfectly resonable to respond after 30 mins. You respond to the person whenever you can.

You wait till night to have a texting conversation rather than just talking on the phone?

Reply 4

londonmyst

19

Yes, it is reasonable and considerate to wait & avoid texting a partner unnecessarily when you know that they are socialising with friends or busy at work/uni/somewhere else.

Reply 5

Kakeema_

11

Conversations should happen naturally, don't force a conversation to happen for it to only end up being dry shortly afterwards. I think it's even more enjoyable to talk about everything at the end of each day where most likely you both have finished with your day, which is when you have each others attention rather than on and off messaging throughout the day.

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