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I think I may be autistic…

Hi, I have always known I am a bit weird. So I am opening up about it anonymously, to have some opinions on if I am autistic or not. If I was it would explain a lot.

- I really like Maths, genetics, pineapples (not eating them), drawing, and the game Undertale.
- I get really obsessed with my interests and they become my only conversation topic, I hate when people get fed up but have no idea what else to talk about
- I prefer bland foods. Beans on toast, tomato soup and cheese sandwiches are my go to meals, couldn’t stand meat so I became a vegetarian, really didn’t like the texture. Also I only eat Kinder brand chocolate, and Fruit pastel ice lollys.
-I talk very loud and fast and ramble so only people who know me well can keep up
-I Talk about the same topics and socialising is exhausting.
- I Don’t like wearing to skirts, or shorts. I only like wearing hoodies, shirts and joggers. This is partially for comfort but also because I am not particularly girly.
-I lack gender stability, I don’t really know what gender I am but I just get stressed trying to figure it out. I don’t really try to look like a girl or boy, shortened my normal name to a casual name. I thought I was agender but I am not sure if it is right. I shaved half of my head and gog a pixie a while back because my hair was a bit girly. Also I hated having styles in my hair, so it seemed easier. I like dying my hair fun colours though, makes me feel more like me.
-I hear random noises that some people don’t, I sometimes hear a high pitched buzz and no one else could hear it. Or I have to close a window because of birds tweeting. Also I see flys on the tv, and love finding easter eggs in movies and games. I love pointing them out.
-I am quite extraverted, but I still mask certain parts of my personality and if somebody says a funny thing I reuse it.
-I also stim without realising it, listening to Megalovania over and over. Breathing deeply a few times. Shaking my leg. Also I dance, and hoover.
-I also read a lot of books really quickly but characters reactions don’t make much sense. I get the story but I just don’t understand characters. When people are sad I just try to help them but I can never help enough and it freaks me out.
-I kind of think in a narrative, talking to myself but then can imagine pictures easily. I also love imagining things, drawing, and putting myself in adventure stories. When I try to write it down I can never put it into words.
-Also I am an adult in some ways, drinking tea and water when I go out. Enjoying scrabble and the news. Then in other ways I have meltdowns, and draw and dance for no reason.
-I set myself unrealistic expectations and want to be perfect, I can never achieve them and it makes me anxious.
-I am unco-ordinated, I can’t dance, I hold my pen in a fist and I bump into things.
-I am nerdy and like the learning side of school, not the social aspects as much.

If anyone reads this then thanks, I did ramble on a bit… I just feel different and it would be nice to have something explain all of this. :smile:
Reply 1
I think it's best you go and see a qualified doctor. Online diagnoses are the worst!
Reply 2
- Also I forgot to mention that I use complicated words, and speak like I am older than I am.
-I also only have one close friend, I am not really connected to the other friends in my group as much
-I also get motion sickness a lot and rollercoasters freak me out.
Sorry forgot to mention these :smile:
Reply 3
Original post by Anonymous
I think it's best you go and see a qualified doctor. Online diagnoses are the worst!

I know but my parents don’t think I should worry about seeing one and I should just be me. I want to get a diagnosis later on I am just not sure if it is worth doing, and if I am just overreacting.
Reply 4
The waiting list is long but it’s worth it if you need help. Like accommodations at school or work. It was helpful for me because I got speech therapy but sometimes it might not change your life much.
Reply 5
Why do you want to be checked for Autism?
I am not saying you are overreacting, but the things you mention mean nothing... there must be something else that made you worry.

I can relate to most of the things you just said, yet I'm pretty sure I'm neurotypical. I'm just a weirdo.
I grew up with an older brother as my only friend so I like boys sports (in Israel basketball and football are considered boys sports). I'm a tomboy, I don't like dresses and skirts (although recently started liking them more and more, because I look good wearing them).
I don't think the things you mentioned make you autistic.
(edited 11 months ago)
Reply 6
Original post by Kathy89
Why do you want to be checked for Autism?
I am not saying you are overreacting, but the things you mention mean nothing... there must be something else that made you worry.

I can relate to most of the things you just said, yet I'm pretty sure I'm neurotypical. I'm just a weirdo.
I grew up with an older brother as my only friend so I like boys sports (in Israel basketball and football are considered boys sports). I'm a tomboy, I don't like dresses and skirts (although recently started liking them more and more, because I look good wearing them).
I don't think the things you mentioned make you autistic.

My main thing is finding socialising really hard and never saying or doing the right things. I have an “okay” day at school but then I have a meltdown. When I am at home I like to be alone. When my family goes on dog walks or shopping I stay at home. I’m also really sensitive, always have been. Socialising just seems so easy for everyone else. Also I stress about everything. When a person gives me instructions I get really confused. I probably am overreacting but as Anonymous 2 said it may be worth going to a doctor to check at some point.
Reply 7
Original post by Anonymous
My main thing is finding socialising really hard and never saying or doing the right things. I have an “okay” day at school but then I have a meltdown. When I am at home I like to be alone. When my family goes on dog walks or shopping I stay at home. I’m also really sensitive, always have been. Socialising just seems so easy for everyone else. Also I stress about everything. When a person gives me instructions I get really confused. I probably am overreacting but as Anonymous 2 said it may be worth going to a doctor to check at some point.

It's always good to see a doctor if you are worried, no matter what the results are.

Being social awkward is not always a sign you are autistic. Look, there is a spectrum, so everyone is an autistic in some way. :smile:
Reply 8
Original post by Kathy89
It's always good to see a doctor if you are worried, no matter what the results are.

Being social awkward is not always a sign you are autistic. Look, there is a spectrum, so everyone is an autistic in some way. :smile:


Thanks, :smile:
Reply 9
Original post by Kathy89
It's always good to see a doctor if you are worried, no matter what the results are.

Being social awkward is not always a sign you are autistic. Look, there is a spectrum, so everyone is an autistic in some way. :smile:


NOT EVERYONE IS AUTISTIC IN SOME WAY
It is true though however that social awkardness isn't always a sign of being autistic
What is meant by a spectrum is that there is the main pentad of differences which could have different 1-10 and to be autistic you need at least 5 in each category and need a total of 30 or something like this (it isn't offical the points but the way it was described to me at my diagnosis)
(edited 11 months ago)
Some of the points you mention could be to do with autism but not all of them such as maths isn't but logical thinking and special interests are

Feel free to message me for more info I can give you the offical doctors questions they ask but can't share them online. My insta is harrypotterquotes567

Sorry I'm going out now so don't have much time to talk now but feel free to message any time
Reply 11
Original post by Jess_Lomas
NOT EVERYONE IS AUTISTIC IN SOME WAY
It is true though however that social awkardness isn't always a sign of being autistic
What is meant by a spectrum is that there is the main pentad of differences which could have different 1-10 and to be autistic you need at least 5 in each category and need a total of 30 or something like this (it isn't offical the points but the way it was described to me at my diagnosis)

I'm sure you understood what I meant.
Sorry if you were offended by my comment.
Reply 12
Original post by Kathy89
I'm sure you understood what I meant.
Sorry if you were offended by my comment.

Yeah, like some people have a few symptoms. If you only have a few symptoms then it isn’t likely you have autism. I just seem to have a lot of them so I am just exploring the possibility.
Reply 13
Original post by Jess_Lomas
Some of the points you mention could be to do with autism but not all of them such as maths isn't but logical thinking and special interests are

Feel free to message me for more info I can give you the offical doctors questions they ask but can't share them online. My insta is harrypotterquotes567

Sorry I'm going out now so don't have much time to talk now but feel free to message any time


Sorry but I don’t have insta. I don’t really use much social media, even TSR is a stretch for me. But I get why you can’t post the questions. Could we private message on here, if not dw and thanks for the advice. I like thinking logically in maths. Algebra, yes 10/10! Sequences, 10/10! Planning investigations, not really… 5/10. Geometry super yes! 12/10!
Original post by Kathy89
I'm sure you understood what I meant.
Sorry if you were offended by my comment.


I'm autistic so don't understand the hidden meanings and read it literally,
What I understood is that you thought that everyone is autistic
Apparently this isn't what you meant (just some kind advice when helping in a thread with autistic people / probable autism then try to be literal as we normally stuggle with interpretation)
(edited 11 months ago)
Original post by Anonymous
Sorry but I don’t have insta. I don’t really use much social media, even TSR is a stretch for me. But I get why you can’t post the questions. Could we private message on here, if not dw and thanks for the advice. I like thinking logically in maths. Algebra, yes 10/10! Sequences, 10/10! Planning investigations, not really… 5/10. Geometry super yes! 12/10!


No problem,
As you are posting anonymously I can't send you a private message so if you want the questions please could you just message me first and then I'll send them
Reply 16
Original post by Anonymous
Hi, I have always known I am a bit weird. So I am opening up about it anonymously, to have some opinions on if I am autistic or not. If I was it would explain a lot.

- I really like Maths, genetics, pineapples (not eating them), drawing, and the game Undertale.
- I get really obsessed with my interests and they become my only conversation topic, I hate when people get fed up but have no idea what else to talk about
- I prefer bland foods. Beans on toast, tomato soup and cheese sandwiches are my go to meals, couldn’t stand meat so I became a vegetarian, really didn’t like the texture. Also I only eat Kinder brand chocolate, and Fruit pastel ice lollys.
-I talk very loud and fast and ramble so only people who know me well can keep up
-I Talk about the same topics and socialising is exhausting.
- I Don’t like wearing to skirts, or shorts. I only like wearing hoodies, shirts and joggers. This is partially for comfort but also because I am not particularly girly.
-I lack gender stability, I don’t really know what gender I am but I just get stressed trying to figure it out. I don’t really try to look like a girl or boy, shortened my normal name to a casual name. I thought I was agender but I am not sure if it is right. I shaved half of my head and gog a pixie a while back because my hair was a bit girly. Also I hated having styles in my hair, so it seemed easier. I like dying my hair fun colours though, makes me feel more like me.
-I hear random noises that some people don’t, I sometimes hear a high pitched buzz and no one else could hear it. Or I have to close a window because of birds tweeting. Also I see flys on the tv, and love finding easter eggs in movies and games. I love pointing them out.
-I am quite extraverted, but I still mask certain parts of my personality and if somebody says a funny thing I reuse it.
-I also stim without realising it, listening to Megalovania over and over. Breathing deeply a few times. Shaking my leg. Also I dance, and hoover.
-I also read a lot of books really quickly but characters reactions don’t make much sense. I get the story but I just don’t understand characters. When people are sad I just try to help them but I can never help enough and it freaks me out.
-I kind of think in a narrative, talking to myself but then can imagine pictures easily. I also love imagining things, drawing, and putting myself in adventure stories. When I try to write it down I can never put it into words.
-Also I am an adult in some ways, drinking tea and water when I go out. Enjoying scrabble and the news. Then in other ways I have meltdowns, and draw and dance for no reason.
-I set myself unrealistic expectations and want to be perfect, I can never achieve them and it makes me anxious.
-I am unco-ordinated, I can’t dance, I hold my pen in a fist and I bump into things.
-I am nerdy and like the learning side of school, not the social aspects as much.

If anyone reads this then thanks, I did ramble on a bit… I just feel different and it would be nice to have something explain all of this. :smile:


Have you looked at the DSM-5 criteria for autism? It’s what most doctors would use and is the closest thing you can get for an online, free diagnosis. Obviously, it’s harder to get professional help for autism when you only have a self-diagnosis but I completely get why it may be hard to get a certified one. (I want to get tested but my parents don’t believe it exists so…)
Reply 17
Original post by waffelton
Have you looked at the DSM-5 criteria for autism? It’s what most doctors would use and is the closest thing you can get for an online, free diagnosis. Obviously, it’s harder to get professional help for autism when you only have a self-diagnosis but I completely get why it may be hard to get a certified one. (I want to get tested but my parents don’t believe it exists so…)

This criteria sounds a lot like me. Especially always wanting to finish a task. I got a marble runner set for Christmas a couple years ago. I got obsessed with making a perfect run. I got frustrated but I knew I had to finish. Then Christmas day went and I regretted it, I just get way too sucked into things. I also like to watch episodes of shows as soon as they come out. I get confused why people don’t do this. I also only have really one close friend. They were putting their hand up to get attention and I ended up explaining they needed to put it up higher. They found it a bit weird but they didn’t mind too much.
Reply 18
Original post by Anonymous
This criteria sounds a lot like me. Especially always wanting to finish a task. I got a marble runner set for Christmas a couple years ago. I got obsessed with making a perfect run. I got frustrated but I knew I had to finish. Then Christmas day went and I regretted it, I just get way too sucked into things. I also like to watch episodes of shows as soon as they come out. I get confused why people don’t do this. I also only have really one close friend. They were putting their hand up to get attention and I ended up explaining they needed to put it up higher. They found it a bit weird but they didn’t mind too much.

if you match the criteria, you are most likely autistic

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