Freshers nights out
I'm in a lot of freshers chats and naturally lots of the discussion is about freshers week, specifically about planning to go out on specific nights out together. The thing is, I'm not a going out person. I turn 18 right before uni so it would probably be my first night out, with a group of total strangers. I just don't know if I'm comfortable with this. I don't enjoy drinking and going out isn't something that particularly appeals to me. However, everyone is telling me that I should go out because its the best way to meet people, is this true? It feels like so many people (mostly that I don't know) are trying to convince me to go out and its making me doubt myself. I really want to meet people so I don't want to miss out but I also don't want to be pressured into something I don't want to do, especially if there are alternative ways to meet people.
Thanks!
(BTW my top choice uni is swansea if that makes any difference)
Thanks!
(BTW my top choice uni is swansea if that makes any difference)
Its a good way to meet people sure but they won't be people you'll enjoy if you don't share similar interests in your past time- realistically, when are you ever going to hang out with these people again if they like to go out and you don't? You will have other chances to meet people who you fit with better, by all means go if you want but don't feel like this is your only shot.
You should meet as many people as you can during the first year, just get to know alot of people in your year/course. It's the one thing I regret. You don't have to drink with them, but record the stuff that happens, for the memories. You also don't have to do every event, just do what you think sounds fun.
Original post by Foxehh
Its a good way to meet people sure but they won't be people you'll enjoy if you don't share similar interests in your past time- realistically, when are you ever going to hang out with these people again if they like to go out and you don't? You will have other chances to meet people who you fit with better, by all means go if you want but don't feel like this is your only shot.
That's a fair point. I think cause so many people are talking about nights out I'm scared I'm gonna miss out but I'm sure there'll be stuff that I enjoy doing where I can meet people
A lot of the freshers chats are dominated by bots and people pretending to be students in order to sell freshers week tickets as they get commission. They will constantly bring the topic of conversation back to freshers week and these ticketed events hence why they ‘arrange’ nights out to encourage people to buy these tickets specifically from them.
The reality is most don’t end up going to these freshers events because they arrange other things with people they meet so the tickets are a complete waste of money. I enjoy nights out but I don’t enjoy getting plastered constantly and I also much prefer pubs to clubs. Going out does not mean you have to drink to excess or even at all, I don’t know many people who would look down on you for not wanting to drink most might just say ‘gorn have one’ but they wouldn’t pressure beyond that. You can also meet people through societies but again often these societies will arrange nights out to get to know eachother.
The reality is most don’t end up going to these freshers events because they arrange other things with people they meet so the tickets are a complete waste of money. I enjoy nights out but I don’t enjoy getting plastered constantly and I also much prefer pubs to clubs. Going out does not mean you have to drink to excess or even at all, I don’t know many people who would look down on you for not wanting to drink most might just say ‘gorn have one’ but they wouldn’t pressure beyond that. You can also meet people through societies but again often these societies will arrange nights out to get to know eachother.
Original post by ecopia
I'm in a lot of freshers chats and naturally lots of the discussion is about freshers week, specifically about planning to go out on specific nights out together. The thing is, I'm not a going out person. I turn 18 right before uni so it would probably be my first night out, with a group of total strangers. I just don't know if I'm comfortable with this. I don't enjoy drinking and going out isn't something that particularly appeals to me. However, everyone is telling me that I should go out because its the best way to meet people, is this true? It feels like so many people (mostly that I don't know) are trying to convince me to go out and its making me doubt myself. I really want to meet people so I don't want to miss out but I also don't want to be pressured into something I don't want to do, especially if there are alternative ways to meet people.
Thanks!
(BTW my top choice uni is swansea if that makes any difference)
Thanks!
(BTW my top choice uni is swansea if that makes any difference)
Absolutely! Going out is one of the best ways of loosening up and socialising with new people, especially during new and potentially scary times such as moving to university and away from parents for the first time. A common misconception is that you have to drink in order to enjoy socialising. It does help, if you are into drinking, but if you're not there are plenty of soft drinks available in pubs and bars for non-drinkers. You have to get out of your comfort zone when you're at university in order to gain a close-knit friendship group. They're convincing you because every fresher is new to university and wanting people to call their uni family essentially!
There are other methods of socialising. There are daytime meetups, walks, cafe trips or even online options like group chats, discords, whatsapp etc.
My birthday is in August so I also joined uni right as I turned 18 and I was horrfified, plus it was covid (2020) so I couldnt even properly socialise once rule of six was terminated a few weeks in. It was mortifying being alone in a dorm away from home. But I stayed because I knew if I went home I would never get anywhere with myself. I've now just graduated yesterday with a load of friends I never knew I'd have made back then!
However, if you are not a drinker and soft drinks and drunk people aren't your cup of tea I implore you to take a day to look at university (in your case Swansea) societies. They are the absolute best way to meet new people without the additional fear of alcohol or staying out at night. I could not advertise societies enough, they can often act like second families once you've been in them for a while.
Hope this helps,
Dominic
Student Ambassador
Original post by ecopia
I'm in a lot of freshers chats and naturally lots of the discussion is about freshers week, specifically about planning to go out on specific nights out together. The thing is, I'm not a going out person. I turn 18 right before uni so it would probably be my first night out, with a group of total strangers. I just don't know if I'm comfortable with this. I don't enjoy drinking and going out isn't something that particularly appeals to me. However, everyone is telling me that I should go out because its the best way to meet people, is this true? It feels like so many people (mostly that I don't know) are trying to convince me to go out and its making me doubt myself. I really want to meet people so I don't want to miss out but I also don't want to be pressured into something I don't want to do, especially if there are alternative ways to meet people.
Thanks!
(BTW my top choice uni is swansea if that makes any difference)
Thanks!
(BTW my top choice uni is swansea if that makes any difference)
Hi, personally I am religious so I know I don't want to go to these events. I'm also going to swansea this year and have had loads of private messages to go to these events but I'm teying not to feel pressured by them - there are many other ways to make friends with others at uni
Original post by ecopia
I'm in a lot of freshers chats and naturally lots of the discussion is about freshers week, specifically about planning to go out on specific nights out together. The thing is, I'm not a going out person. I turn 18 right before uni so it would probably be my first night out, with a group of total strangers. I just don't know if I'm comfortable with this. I don't enjoy drinking and going out isn't something that particularly appeals to me. However, everyone is telling me that I should go out because its the best way to meet people, is this true? It feels like so many people (mostly that I don't know) are trying to convince me to go out and its making me doubt myself. I really want to meet people so I don't want to miss out but I also don't want to be pressured into something I don't want to do, especially if there are alternative ways to meet people.
Thanks!
(BTW my top choice uni is swansea if that makes any difference)
Thanks!
(BTW my top choice uni is swansea if that makes any difference)
Hi there!
During freshers week, there is lots going on during the day as well as at night where you can meet people! Lots of societies will organise events during the day where you can get to meet people who share similar interests to you. You also don't have to drink to enjoy a night out, plenty of people don't drink and there's no pressure to drink! I hope this helps you feel a bit more comfortable!
Rebecca - UCLan
Original post by ecopia
I'm in a lot of freshers chats and naturally lots of the discussion is about freshers week, specifically about planning to go out on specific nights out together. The thing is, I'm not a going out person. I turn 18 right before uni so it would probably be my first night out, with a group of total strangers. I just don't know if I'm comfortable with this. I don't enjoy drinking and going out isn't something that particularly appeals to me. However, everyone is telling me that I should go out because its the best way to meet people, is this true? It feels like so many people (mostly that I don't know) are trying to convince me to go out and its making me doubt myself. I really want to meet people so I don't want to miss out but I also don't want to be pressured into something I don't want to do, especially if there are alternative ways to meet people.
Thanks!
(BTW my top choice uni is swansea if that makes any difference)
Thanks!
(BTW my top choice uni is swansea if that makes any difference)
Do it, go out, you'll have the best time
Original post by Neurosciencenerd
Hi, personally I am religious so I know I don't want to go to these events. I'm also going to swansea this year and have had loads of private messages to go to these events but I'm teying not to feel pressured by them - there are many other ways to make friends with others at uni
Ask the people messaging what halls they’re going to be in and what course they’ll be doing. They’re reps not freshers
Hi,
I was in a group chat for a uni and everyone seemed to be talking about going out partying and I don't do out either so I asked if anyone was interesting in making a group chat for people who don't want to go clubbing and has around 150 people in, I think a lot more people aren't into going out than realised and it takes one person to say it for others to feel comfortable saying it I guess
I was in a group chat for a uni and everyone seemed to be talking about going out partying and I don't do out either so I asked if anyone was interesting in making a group chat for people who don't want to go clubbing and has around 150 people in, I think a lot more people aren't into going out than realised and it takes one person to say it for others to feel comfortable saying it I guess
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