Can't get over break up

I feel like such a pathetic loser for not being able to get over my ex yet when they as far as I know have moved on and don't even care about me anymore. I'm normally a pretty strong person but I just can't get over this and I'm really frustrated at myself for it. I don't even think I love them anymore and I don't really want them back but it's the past good memories but also the hurt and betrayal they made me feel after ending things unexpectedly that I just can't get over. I feel like I can't even keep talking to my friends about it anymore cos I don't wanna annoy them by going on about it too much. Am I really just not gonna get over this till I find someone else? But being dumped has also made me absolutely terrified to love someone else again cos I'm just gonna be scared the whole time that one day they could also just say goodbye for no other reason than they just lost feelings.

Hey 🙂
Been there, it’s hard and very difficult but it’s a one day at a time sort of situation. Take your time and relax, you will definitely get over this. People come and go and that’s alright, it does not mean you won’t find someone else. This will make you cautious for future relationships but you shouldn’t rush into a new one just to get over them. Treat yourself with respect and find good ways to cope by doing things for yourself and removing that person entirely from your life one step at a time. There’s always gonna be the question “Was it something I did?” “What the **** did I do to be treated like this?”, do not blame yourself for something you didn’t see coming. And please do not be afraid to love another person, everyone is different. Do not let that person get the satisfaction of messing with your mind, your stronger for feeling emotions, it is completely normal. I remember being so angry with myself for not doing better but realised that a relationship takes two to makes things work and if I was carrying the relationship, then it wasn’t one to begin with. Your gonna feel down for a few weeks, maybe months but be kind to yourself and don’t punish yourself by feeling frustrated. Friends are there to be with you through everything, I’m sure if your friends are your friends then they will help you out and make you feel like you again. Hope this helped and I’m sorry your feeling this way. 💌

I'm going through the exact same thing currently. 3 months post break up and if anything I'm feeling worse than at the start. At first I thought that we might get back together but that's evidently not going to happen now, so just feeling worse. My break up was so unexpected also and I can't see myself getting over this anytime soon.

Honestly you have also literally just described me, it's also been about 3 months for me, I could've written what you just wrote lol. I think I'm better than I was in the start in the sense that I don't want them back now and I'm not crying about it all the time (I hardly ever cry about it now). But I'm worse in the sense that now the initial crazy emotions of shock have gone, all the other things keep playing in my mind. I think we just need to hang in there and eventually these feelings will go away themselves and we'll wake up one day and have an entire day where we never even think about them once and then more and more!

I really hope that day will come soon, so fed up of feeling this way. Unfortunately I still want him back. There was literally nothing wrong with our relationship which makes it worse, I can't be angry at him because he was genuinely nice about the whole thing. Just still heartbroken and confused.

I feel like such a pathetic loser for not being able to get over my ex yet when they as far as I know have moved on and don't even care about me anymore. I'm normally a pretty strong person but I just can't get over this and I'm really frustrated at myself for it. I don't even think I love them anymore and I don't really want them back but it's the past good memories but also the hurt and betrayal they made me feel after ending things unexpectedly that I just can't get over. I feel like I can't even keep talking to my friends about it anymore cos I don't wanna annoy them by going on about it too much. Am I really just not gonna get over this till I find someone else? But being dumped has also made me absolutely terrified to love someone else again cos I'm just gonna be scared the whole time that one day they could also just say goodbye for no other reason than they just lost feelings.