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How can i move out as immediately as possible?

I feel as tho I might be living in an unsafe home environment.
I am over the age of 18 and I need advice on how to leave without informing my parents that I think they are abusive.
I am not being physically or verbally abused although have been in the past and the threat of it happening again came yesterday and now I cant feel anything but anxious.
I'm not sure if emergency housing would involve investigations or length I just need some advice.
I understand some of how you feel. :smile:
I was raised in a toxic and controlling household, surrounded by unreasonable adults who constantly imposed themselves & their bizarre demands upon me.
Escaped 10 years ago and will never go back.
Nor have any contact with my parents, grandmother or any of their vile pals.

Do you have savings and a stable monthly source of employment income? :confused:
Do you have a uni place or further study college place?
Are you healthy?
Is there any family history of criminality, religious imposition or heavy pressure to marry overseas as a teenager/ ever agree to consider arranged marriage?
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Original post by londonmyst
I understand some of how you feel. :smile:
I was raised in a toxic and controlling household, surrounded by unreasonable adults who constantly imposed themselves & their bizarre demands upon me.
Escaped 10 years ago and will never go back.
Nor have any contact with my parents, grandmother or any of their vile pals.

Do you have savings and a stable monthly source of employment income? :confused:
Do you have a uni place or further study college place?
Are you healthy?
Is there any family history of criminality, religious imposition or heavy pressure to marry overseas as a teenager/ ever agree to consider arranged marriage?


Thank you so much for understanding.
I have 100 in savings at the moment and I am in employment so I’ll have my wage soon.
I am in my second year of college and so no uni place
Minus a few chronic pain disorders I have I am healthy.
I do have a disability but its not severe enough from what I can tell to be a reason to support me.
and no family history with crime or overseas marriages
Original post by Anonymous
Thank you so much for understanding.
I have 100 in savings at the moment and I am in employment so I’ll have my wage soon.
I am in my second year of college and so no uni place
Minus a few chronic pain disorders I have I am healthy.
I do have a disability but its not severe enough from what I can tell to be a reason to support me.
and no family history with crime or overseas marriages

What are the rents like in the areas close to where you work?
Is there a lot of local rental accomodation for child-free single students and professionals?
What type of areas are you willing to consider moving to?

Check whether you are entitled to any bursaries from your college and if your chronic health issues are eligible for any welfare support.

Your best option will probably be renting a room in a houseshare and staying as far away as you possibly can from the unpleasant or highly volatile individuals you are currently living with.
Unless you have some friends with a spare room or sofa who are willing to let you stay with them, you will need to save up as much as you can for a few months.
So that you'll be able to afford to pay the rental deposit and some rent in advance.

Put your safety first and always trust your gut instinct.
Spend as much time as you can away from the most problematic members of your household and develop effective coping measure to maintain a positive & ambitious mindset.
Try to restrict communications with them and take precautions to avoid opportunities for face to face contact.
Accept as much work overtime as possible, visit local libraries, socialise with friends at their homes or free nearby places.
If any member of your household threatens you or steals your possessions that you paid for, make a police report so that everything is on file.
Good luck!
Reply 4
Original post by londonmyst
What are the rents like in the areas close to where you work?
Is there a lot of local rental accomodation for child-free single students and professionals?
What type of areas are you willing to consider moving to?

Check whether you are entitled to any bursaries from your college and if your chronic health issues are eligible for any welfare support.

Your best option will probably be renting a room in a houseshare and staying as far away as you possibly can from the unpleasant or highly volatile individuals you are currently living with.
Unless you have some friends with a spare room or sofa who are willing to let you stay with them, you will need to save up as much as you can for a few months.
So that you'll be able to afford to pay the rental deposit and some rent in advance.

Put your safety first and always trust your gut instinct.
Spend as much time as you can away from the most problematic members of your household and develop effective coping measure to maintain a positive & ambitious mindset.
Try to restrict communications with them and take precautions to avoid opportunities for face to face contact.
Accept as much work overtime as possible, visit local libraries, socialise with friends at their homes or free nearby places.
If any member of your household threatens you or steals your possessions that you paid for, make a police report so that everything is on file.
Good luck!


Thank you so much for your advice, I think I am going to save for rent deposit and possibly stay with a friend. Im gonna look i to possible bursaries as well.

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