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Hey.

My dad lets say is abusive, he used to be a great calm dad but now because of some health issues hes always getting angry and hitting me and my mum. Even when he hit my mum yesterday over a silly argument i shouted at him to not hit her then he hit me while i was holding my baby brother. Hes done this multiple times. Once he kicked me down the stairs, once he choked me, he shouldnt be doing this to me as his daughter, and not to his wife at all.

My mum wont let me report him to the police because he gets better overtime and we cant let him go like that, but i dont know what to do. there was a couple of times i was thinking to run away but i cant leave my mum and brother alone. My mum wishes she worked so me, her andmy brother could move out, but she doesnt have a job. My dad is the only one earning. And we have no other family here.


I dont know what to do. Does anyone know any good high paying jobs or what i shiuld do in this situation. I was thinking to bare with it because i will go university in 1 year
Hi,
Firstly I am so sorry that you are going through this. Have you spoken to anyone you trust about this, other than your mum of course? I understand that your dad is the only one earning, but domestic abuse is not ok. If you need to speak to someone, tell a teacher at school you feel comfortable to talk to. If you cannot do this, then there are free confidential helplines who will be able to support you. who you can call or chat online for FREE. I can provide you with some links below:

Childline:
https://www.childline.org.uk/
0800 1111

The Mix
https://www.themix.org.uk/
0808 808 4994

There is also a good organisation that helps specifically with victims of domestic abuse that you or your mother can contact:
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/
0808 2000 247

Remember you are not alone, and there are people who care and can help you and you and your family feel safe again :smile:
Original post by Anonymous
Hey.

My dad lets say is abusive, he used to be a great calm dad but now because of some health issues hes always getting angry and hitting me and my mum. Even when he hit my mum yesterday over a silly argument i shouted at him to not hit her then he hit me while i was holding my baby brother. Hes done this multiple times. Once he kicked me down the stairs, once he choked me, he shouldnt be doing this to me as his daughter, and not to his wife at all.

My mum wont let me report him to the police because he gets better overtime and we cant let him go like that, but i dont know what to do. there was a couple of times i was thinking to run away but i cant leave my mum and brother alone. My mum wishes she worked so me, her andmy brother could move out, but she doesnt have a job. My dad is the only one earning. And we have no other family here.


I dont know what to do. Does anyone know any good high paying jobs or what i shiuld do in this situation. I was thinking to bare with it because i will go university in 1 year


Also please do not worry about supporting yourself and your family financially. There are benefits you (when you turn 18) and your mum may be eligible for. This can be found on:
https://www.gov.uk/check-benefits-financial-support

You can also use the website below to calculate any benefits you and your mum may be eligible for:
https://www.gov.uk/benefits-calculators

If you are not eligible, you could get a 16-19 bursary whilst you are at school (ask your school about this). If you are able to, having a part-time job might help you earn some extra money whilst studying.

Hope this helps!
(edited 7 months ago)

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