I don't know what to do with my life

ok so im on a gap year that I did not want to take bc my first attempt at uni did not go well! so I'm feeling a lot of pressure to get it right this time around...

i went to bath and hated how snobby the people were and the ONLY way anyone would socialise was clubbing (hello?? cute pub and cafes??) generally just everything about it, and decided I needed to be in a bigger city, I'm from the south so I'm like perf ill go to London, except there's not many mid unis in London?? I've applied to kings and ucl but its a lot more pressure on those applications and they haven't replied yet and agh!

i also liked royal holloway but its so small it scares me that i wouldn't find my sort of people there?? but also it was quite quiet which i kinda like except would i get bored of that quickly?? and I'm quite not quiet so would i really fit into a quiet place? like i could talk for england if i had the chance!and then people were scaring me w how expensive london is and i have two slots left and i have no idea what to put do i put another ucl course (my first choice uni) do i put somewhere not london in case i realise its not for me but then where??? i like having things to do i like staying busy i like routine i like chatting i just don't like clubbing and every other uni i think of is either massively club/drugs (eg. leeds, liverpool) or giving bath vibess (eg. durham, york) or just like why would you want to live there (kent...) I'm much more a one cute drink in a nice pub girly! lets go on a study date! lets watch a film! lets go on a walk! sort of vibes

can someone just make my life decisions for me pls and thanks xxxx

also soz Grammarly is screaming crying throwing up i do science i don't write xxx

Consider Edinburgh, Bristol, Norwich (even though it has more "town vibes"), Oxford, Cambridge, Nottingham

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i do science i don't write
What specific science do you do? Depending on your answer, you might prefer specific universities over the others.
The way you write makes it seems like you're doing a creative subject as opposed to a science.

i went to bath and hated how snobby the people were and the ONLY way anyone would socialise was clubbing (hello?? cute pub and cafes??) generally just everything about it, and decided I needed to be in a bigger city,
I don't understand the reasoning. If you want to socialise with people who don't go clubbing, wouldn't it make more sense to locate in a town where the only way to socialise would be in pubs and cafes?
Anything bigger than Bath would involve a population of larger than 90k (used as a benchmark and a very crude indicator)

I'm from the south so I'm like perf ill go to London, except there's not many mid unis in London?? I've applied to kings and ucl but its a lot more pressure on those applications and they haven't replied yet and agh!
If you have the grades, you are generally fine unless the degree you're applying for is super competitive.
Having said that, I would have a very good reason to why you dropped out of Bath if you need to go through an interview (which I don't think applies to you)

i also liked royal holloway but its so small it scares me that i wouldn't find my sort of people there??
Define your "sort of people". It's kind of narrow minded if you refuse to socialise or meet people outside of your "type".

but also it was quite quiet which i kinda like except would i get bored of that quickly?? and I'm quite not quiet so would i really fit into a quiet place? like i could talk for england if i had the chance!
Again, doesn't really scream scientist to me and more like a creative type, but then again that's just me (who am I to question this?).
I would have thought the priority is to get the right education and network with the right people for the sort of role that you want to get into. Whether you like the location isn't as important.
Side note: just because the place is quiet, it doesn't mean the people are. I think it's more of a matter of finding chatty people who you get along with.

do i put somewhere not london in case i realise its not for me but then where???
See comments above.

i like having things to do i like staying busy i like routine i like chatting i just don't like clubbing
Your education should take up at least 40 hours a week (if it's not, then you're not doing it right). If you have any free time, then consider a job of some type or some sort of sports/society.
60 hours or so a week is a lot for most people. The above should be roughly that.

and every other uni i think of is either massively club/drugs (eg. leeds, liverpool) or giving bath vibess (eg. durham, york) or just like why would you want to live there (kent...)
Nobody is asking you to live there permanently. Again, it's more about finding people you like more than the location i.e. you can still get quiet people in large cities.

I'm much more a one cute drink in a nice pub girly! lets go on a study date! lets watch a film! lets go on a walk! sort of vibes
This is independent of location. I would look more into the uni societies than the actual location.

Have you looked loughborough uni???

how about just outside of London? Surrey Uni is well rated. What about Sussex Uni? Hoe about UEA or Kent? All mid ranking unis.

ok so im on a gap year that I did not want to take bc my first attempt at uni did not go well! so I'm feeling a lot of pressure to get it right this time around...

i went to bath and hated how snobby the people were and the ONLY way anyone would socialise was clubbing (hello?? cute pub and cafes??) generally just everything about it, and decided I needed to be in a bigger city, I'm from the south so I'm like perf ill go to London, except there's not many mid unis in London?? I've applied to kings and ucl but its a lot more pressure on those applications and they haven't replied yet and agh!

i also liked royal holloway but its so small it scares me that i wouldn't find my sort of people there?? but also it was quite quiet which i kinda like except would i get bored of that quickly?? and I'm quite not quiet so would i really fit into a quiet place? like i could talk for england if i had the chance!and then people were scaring me w how expensive london is and i have two slots left and i have no idea what to put do i put another ucl course (my first choice uni) do i put somewhere not london in case i realise its not for me but then where??? i like having things to do i like staying busy i like routine i like chatting i just don't like clubbing and every other uni i think of is either massively club/drugs (eg. leeds, liverpool) or giving bath vibess (eg. durham, york) or just like why would you want to live there (kent...) I'm much more a one cute drink in a nice pub girly! lets go on a study date! lets watch a film! lets go on a walk! sort of vibes

can someone just make my life decisions for me pls and thanks xxxx

also soz Grammarly is screaming crying throwing up i do science i don't write xxx

Hey!

I am also on a gap year, an unexpected one as St Andrews didn't work out for me. I am interested in Royal Holloway and York mainly and have a lot of common points for my own university hopes that you have.

I'd be good to have a chat, if you'd like my Snapchat or Instagram then let me know!

This might interest you. Have you thought of Cardiff which has low rates of private students and is a fairly sizeable city or Swansea which is quite close to scenic places. Lancaster might be another,

Hey!

I am also on a gap year, an unexpected one as St Andrews didn't work out for me. I am interested in Royal Holloway and York mainly and have a lot of common points for my own university hopes that you have.

I'd be good to have a chat, if you'd like my Snapchat or Instagram then let me know!

I do maths and physics, I am creative but for fun I'm not actually good at it, and have absolutely no motivation for writing etc, hahaha!! i did maths, further maths and econ for a level, and am sitting physics on my gap year!
i will look at those unis rn!

i guess my brain is all over the place but essentially I found in bath every person I met only wanted to go clubbing (partly my own fault for not branching out more!) and people weren't very understanding if that's not what you were at uni to do, and I struggled to find people who were like minded. i guess that's what I mean by my sort of people? just people who have a similar idea of what to get out of the whole experience! but your insight as to making sure I pick the right societies etc as opposed to the right city DEFINITELY takes some of the pressure off! I also realise I come across like I cant socialise with people who arent like me - I should elaborate that its just incredibly isolating to be in uni halls and be the only person in an accom who didnt go to a private school, there was no reliability! we had no shared experiences! which i understand is just poor luck on who i was put with, but generally contributed to the whole experience!!!

i guess i just thought a bigger city like london, there's many many students, and so many museums etc! i could spend months exploring them all if things didnt work out socially, there's lots of options for if it goes wrong to do on my own, it feels reassuring to have that sort of safety blanket.

defo considering smaller cities/big towns, and those on the outskirts, so that i have london near but that smaller town vibe you talk about.

thanks xx

that was my thinking applying for royal holloway! sussex is a no as I live in brighten already and reallllllly want to LEAVE - but will look at surrey, uea and kent! it'll just be so reassuring to have a few unis that arent up their own to fall back on if ucl/kings r like absolutely not