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Dry vagina when about to have sex....

Me (23) and bf (23) have been together 3 years. I have never had any problems with our sex life till recently. I would always get turned on easily and have enough lubrication.

Until recently. Been going on a couple months, I noticed I was dry down there in general and just simply would not get wet for sex. After a bit my general wetness has come back but the moment we go to have sex I instantly dry up. I don't know if I'm mentally thinking it will hurt because I was dry for a but and there was one time it hurt due to it. Its driving me insane, 9/10 we have to use lube now. We will be making out and mentally I feel turned on but then physically I'm not. But 5 mins before we are about to have sex I will feel wet and ready. I'm not sure if it's ruined my feeling horny often as I feel like ots been less frequent. We also recently had relationship problems so dk if that could play itno it. I'm also on Birth control and have been for 5 years, never had any issues with it so don't know if this is a cause because generally I feel wet and I am leading up to sex its the moment we start touching/ penetration I dry up. My bf is so calm and gentle with it if it happens he goes and gets the lube and carries on. Its getting me reallt down tho because I use to get super wet and feel reallt horny but the fact I can't seem to self lubricate now is ruining it for me I don't want to use lube every time.
Original post by Anonymous #1
Me (23) and bf (23) have been together 3 years. I have never had any problems with our sex life till recently. I would always get turned on easily and have enough lubrication.
Until recently. Been going on a couple months, I noticed I was dry down there in general and just simply would not get wet for sex. After a bit my general wetness has come back but the moment we go to have sex I instantly dry up. I don't know if I'm mentally thinking it will hurt because I was dry for a but and there was one time it hurt due to it. Its driving me insane, 9/10 we have to use lube now. We will be making out and mentally I feel turned on but then physically I'm not. But 5 mins before we are about to have sex I will feel wet and ready. I'm not sure if it's ruined my feeling horny often as I feel like ots been less frequent. We also recently had relationship problems so dk if that could play itno it. I'm also on Birth control and have been for 5 years, never had any issues with it so don't know if this is a cause because generally I feel wet and I am leading up to sex its the moment we start touching/ penetration I dry up. My bf is so calm and gentle with it if it happens he goes and gets the lube and carries on. Its getting me reallt down tho because I use to get super wet and feel reallt horny but the fact I can't seem to self lubricate now is ruining it for me I don't want to use lube every time.

its not ur fault but ik other ppl it happened to after a few yrs and hate to say it they all had relay issues and were von birth control
Original post by Anonymous
Me (23) and bf (23) have been together 3 years. I have never had any problems with our sex life till recently. I would always get turned on easily and have enough lubrication.
Until recently. Been going on a couple months, I noticed I was dry down there in general and just simply would not get wet for sex. After a bit my general wetness has come back but the moment we go to have sex I instantly dry up. I don't know if I'm mentally thinking it will hurt because I was dry for a but and there was one time it hurt due to it. Its driving me insane, 9/10 we have to use lube now. We will be making out and mentally I feel turned on but then physically I'm not. But 5 mins before we are about to have sex I will feel wet and ready. I'm not sure if it's ruined my feeling horny often as I feel like ots been less frequent. We also recently had relationship problems so dk if that could play itno it. I'm also on Birth control and have been for 5 years, never had any issues with it so don't know if this is a cause because generally I feel wet and I am leading up to sex its the moment we start touching/ penetration I dry up. My bf is so calm and gentle with it if it happens he goes and gets the lube and carries on. Its getting me reallt down tho because I use to get super wet and feel reallt horny but the fact I can't seem to self lubricate now is ruining it for me I don't want to use lube every time.

Go to a doctor to rule out any problems happening in your body. And ask for advice about how to manage it. I hate to say it but your body is going to do things like this to you repeatedly over the course of your life. It's just what bodies are like. Try not to worry, and instead just keep finding ways to adjust and be happy. Kind wishes.

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