Do geeks made good husbands

I'm muslim and this family has asked my hand in proposal for their son. It came as a shock and it was sudden. The problem is that he's a geek. He's very much into computers etc. He is extremely intelligent, and has a very respectful job but am not sure whether i want to marry him. He seems very shy and at social parties he tends to exclude himself, but on the other hand he's so caring and a true gentleman and never ever takes out his anger. Help me please

Reply 1

Callipygian

2

Speaking from someone who is in a long term relationship with a geek, yes they make good partners, but obviously it depends on the guy, some geeks wont. My geek is pretty outgoing, he was chairman of the school council (which is like head boy/girl at my school) and he now has a good job building killer robots for national defense. Your geek doesnt sound as outgoing - i dont know arranged marriages work, but defo try to get to know him first.

Reply 2

morecambebay

16

Marry for love?

No?

...stupid me.

Reply 3

Law123mus

11

Whatever you decide please promise me you will never reproduce!

Reply 4

greeneyedgirl

19

Some people would love a geek for a husband, some people wouldn't. Everyone has individual preferences, if he is not yours, don't marry him.

Reply 5

Holly Hiskey

11

Some geeks are good husbands, some are average, some are good, same as any other social group

Reply 6

OMG TOOTHBRUSH

14

arranged marriage LOL

Muslims crack me up :rofl:

They're so backwards :biggrin:

Reply 7

faber niger

17

Though there are many religious doctrines/practices that I disagree with, I don't take issue with arranged marriages in principle; I don't see that they are necessarily any worse than romantic marriages, generally speaking. So you may as well give him a chance, unless you have any grave reservations, since you may well come to love him, and he you.

Reply 8

kohler

4

I can't believe your describing your future husband as a geek. He deserves better than someone like yourself.

Reply 9

Slab'o'Butter

Original post by Anonymous

I'm muslim and this family has asked my hand in proposal for their son. It came as a shock and it was sudden. The problem is that he's a geek. He's very much into computers etc. He is extremely intelligent, and has a very respectful job but am not sure whether i want to marry him. He seems very shy and at social parties he tends to exclude himself, but on the other hand he's so caring and a true gentleman and never ever takes out his anger. Help me please

I hear they double up as a calculator.

Though, theism prefers the illogical.

Reply 10

CountDuckula

Go on a date? :biggrin:

get to know him? it doesn't matter if geeks make good husbands or not cos if you don't feel that spark of attraction for him, it's not worth it
He sounds very nice (if a bit shy) from the way you described him though :smile:

Reply 11

bluemax

16

well you wont find out unless you try it :biggrin:

Reply 12

zxh800

13

Original post by Anonymous

I'm muslim and this family has asked my hand in proposal for their son. It came as a shock and it was sudden. The problem is that he's a geek. He's very much into computers etc. He is extremely intelligent, and has a very respectful job but am not sure whether i want to marry him. He seems very shy and at social parties he tends to exclude himself, but on the other hand he's so caring and a true gentleman and never ever takes out his anger. Help me please

Meet him, talk to him and see if you like him. Does he share similar interests? Do you find him physically attractive?

Those are only some questions you need to be asking yourself. In Islam, no one is forcing you to marry someone you don't want to. So be sure you like the guy before tieing the knot.

Reply 13

Ice_Queen

17

I'm living with a geek, and mine is caring and nice, the only problem really is the amount of time he spends on his computer rather than doing anything remotely useful.

Reply 14

OMG TOOTHBRUSH

14

Original post by zxh800

Meet him, talk to him and see if you like him. Does he share similar interests? Do you find him physically attractive?

Those are only some questions you need to be asking yourself. In Islam, no one is forcing you to marry someone you don't want to. So be sure you like the guy before tieing the knot.

Top advice right here: before you choose to spend the rest of your life with someone make sure you 'like' them.

Thanks for sharing your great wisdom.

Reply 15

Tallon

16

I'd have thought a good husband is somebody you love who's caring, kind to you, looks after you, etc. Not really my place to give my opinion on arranged marrages, but I will say there's more to being a good husband than being a geek or not. Kind of silly to generalise.

Reply 16

zxh800

13

Original post by OMG TOOTHBRUSH

Top advice right here: before you choose to spend the rest of your life with someone make sure you 'like' them.

Thanks for sharing your great wisdom.

Reply 17

MagicNMedicine

20

If he's a geek with good earning power then could be a good option.....provide you with a nice lifestyle and geeks are generally a bit lacking in social awareness so they are less likely to find out when you have an affair