Basically I've had a one night stand with a fresher twice (I'm a girl, and in second year). I've had a fling with a fresher once before (we didn't sleep together, but were planning on going on dates and kissed many times/stayed in eachother's beds but decided that we didn't want to rush things) but it ended up with him telling me he just wanted to be friends. I've also heard from many other freshers that now they've come to uni, they sort of just want to have fun rather than being tied down.
But with this fresher who I've had the two one night stands with (I guess that doesn't make them one night stands but anyway) I managed to get in a bit too deep. I'm not particularly new to the ONS thing, I don't sleep around but I did the whole "fun" thing a few times in my fresher year. With this guy, after the first time we spoke a few times on facebook, he was flirting a bit and said he'd like to see me again soon and then we saw eachother at a party a few days later. We were talking most of the night, then it led to flirting and then we went to another party together later.
Unfortunately, at this party he was talking to another girl and then they kissed, I saw him talking to her and then they exchanged numbers but her friends came to whisk her away and then he came straight over to me and asked if I was alright. I told him the truth- I wasn't really ok because I was incredibly jealous, he replied with "Yeah I know, I feel awful about it" and said she was a "mistake" (I think he was quite drunk). Then he kissed me, and we went home together. We slept together again, and in the morning he hugged me, we started kissing again and ended up showering together.
My instincts knew this was a bad idea, and that I'd get in too deep but then I ended up going home, not being able to rest and sending him my number over facebook. He replied today with his number and wished me a happy birthday and I spoke to him a little bit again.
The thing is I know this guy doesn't like me and is using me (or at least I think he is), and I don't really know how to get out of liking him. But I think I'll make the same mistake again and then I'll be in far over my head with someone who just wants sex.
I don't remember my fresher year being like this, but so many of this year are...