Girls: I think you expect too much.

Modern women generally are just aloof and careerist, I don't know whether it's pickiness about men or just lack of the belief they want one. Personally I find it all quite cold and unromantic.

What?

A girl who wants to focus on getting a good career and building her education a long with the dedication and cold exterior is sexy.

Being tall is also a plus. Someone who is planning long-term, thinking a head. My type of person!

Firstly, I would like to say that girls/women have it tough. If not more so. However, society, advertising and the americanisation of culture is demanding more of us every decade, including guys.

Why is it that we are all made to feel inadequate all the time? We have to have better this, bigger that or faster this? To me it's rubbish.

Admittedly this has been triggered by my longing for girls who seem to care more about what society and their peers expect as opposed to what they actually feel themselves individually.

I feel like I have to be taller, stronger, more intelligent, cooler and more popular. If I could isolate one reason, it would be the increasing Americanisation of our culture. Life is not perfect and I think we should all learn to be more acceptant of each others imperfections. Ok rant over. I'd like to add I do quite well with the opposite sex, but sometimes I feel like I'm being judged on superficiality to a great extent.

Any thoughts?

I discovered something recently on the internet I wont mention what, but since learning from it I've become a much better person by learning to undo social conditioning and by being happy by not depending on the values that advertising and society is trying to get me to conform to.

Why not share it? Sounds interesting..

I live in America and everyone here's ugly as ****....... just saying.

Why do so many people insist on wearing a sports bib as a t shirt and a snapback as acceptable everyday clothing?!

You were describing me until you got to tall. Oops.

OP, I agree. People expect too much of themselves, and of each other.

Interesting. Seems about right. Though I'd definitely say it's not something that's isolated to men, with the Americanisation/capitalist take on it, it affects all of us really.

Yeah, I agree. To be fair it affects us all. I guess I can only speak from my perspective. Do you think one gender is more affected by the need to conform to societal/peer expectations? I think perhaps Men are more likely to 'go it alone' and refuse to conform to these expectations. Of course, I could be completely wrong.

I'm a girl and I feel guys expect a lot too.

I have always felt (and been told by some people) I look 'okay'. My body is 'okay'. But what does that even mean? I have a slight figure, meaning I have a little bit of a bum, and a little bit of a bust. Yet all lads seem to talk about is 'what do you prefer; boobs or bum?' Or 'curvy girls are so much better, only a dog wants a bone' etc. I just feel expectations have seesawed - in the same way there are people with natural curves that can't be size 0, there are girls with natural straight lines, but no one remembers that body shapes aren't like fashions and can be thrown out and changed on a regular basis. So what, we're supposed to be petite with DDs and a massive arse? No one in the world has a body like that. No one looks like they do on TV. That's why they're on TV.

I understand that a lot is expected of men, to be the Prince Charming and to treat the girl like a flower, I think that sucks. Yes, there is no excuse for being treated badly but nobody's perfect. There's just someone out there who's perfect for you.

When you find a good relationship, none of this matters. But until then, all this bull hurts. If we all communicated maybe it would be better for everyone.

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