I've at uni and about to turn 20, and I've been single all my life; I feel like I should get some experience being in a relationship or at least dating, but the type of guys I go for never seem to like girls like me.
I like to put effort into my appearance and I get my fair share of male attention, and I've had guys whom I find really physically attractive and guys who are very smart ask me out, but I tend to really value someone's personality as much as their looks or intelligence, and I want someone who's very kind and decent, hard-working, and actually looking for a committed relationship.
I always end up pulling the "players"/guys who are clearly only after one thing (to the point of admitting it to me). A couple of friends have told me that people they know are interested in me - it always ends up being guys who don't really respect me or want to get to know me properly as a person, as I find out when I start talking to them. When I've turned these guys' advances down politely they haven't even wanted to be friends any more and have spread rumours that I'm a bitch/stuck-up behind my back.
I do know a few guys who are really nice people, but they're mostly in relationships, or not really people I know well enough, and they never seem to go for girls like me - none of the ones I know seem to particularly like me. They always seem to date the quiet, shy girls (I was like this before uni and actually had a couple of guys like that fancy me, though I didn't have enough time for a boyfriend at the time), whereas I'm really outgoing, extroverted, a party girl, and ambitious. I'm quite blunt too - if I think something can be done better I will immediately point it out. I either seem to scare the nice guys off or come across as too high-maintenance for them.
I obviously take my degree seriously as well, but one of my friends once said I was like a "potential trophy girlfriend" as I don't like to come across as too intellectual and am quite girly. I put a lot of effort into my appearance but I'm definitely not the stereotypical vain bitchy girl, if anything I'm quite nice. However, this just seems to attract players/the wrong guys even more as they seem to see me as an easy target!
Advice?