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I'm an 18 yo depressed girl with a messed up life, ask me anything!

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Reply 60

Lil08

Your problems are only as big as you make them out to be. Everyone has a tough life.

Reply 61

iamintorture

Original post by WoodyMKC

Only joking, I lied.

I know lying is wrong, but if the elephant man came in now in a blouse with make-up on and asked "How do I look?", would you say - bearing in mind he's depressed and has respiratory problems - would you say "Go and take that blusher off, you mishapen-headed elephant tranny"? No, you'd say "You look NICE... John".

What exactly did you lie about?. Nah I wouldn't say anything, I'd just run in the opposite direction.

Reply 62

iamintorture

Original post by Lil08

Your problems are only as big as you make them out to be. Everyone has a tough life.

Everybody? That's quite a big generalisation if you ask me.

Reply 63

TheSpecialist

Original post by iamintorture

Not yet, but it's reinforced some things. Yeah perhaps but it's better than any other self destructive behaviours I've done to deal with things in the past. I don't feel sorry for myself tbh. I just feel frustrated and stuck in a vicious cycle and don't know how to get myself out.

Getting out of a vicious cycle is quite simple - take a step back, evaluate, figure out a solution, implement it.

Your boyfriend should be the first one. End it, and spend time being single to figure out the rest of your life. You can't re-invent yourself with that type of relationship.

Start there, everything will come to you shortly afterwards...

Reply 64

ZolaCFC25

You need to dump your boyfriend and go make love with a rich boy with a good heart who you like! Why do you love your current one? You need to open out a little if you want our full advice :wink:

Reply 65

iamintorture

Original post by TheSpecialist

Thank you, that's actually really good advice esp the first sentence :smile:

I have never been single so I guess I should probably give it a go at some point. lol.

Reply 66

TheSpecialist

Original post by iamintorture

Thank you, that's actually really good advice esp the first sentence :smile:

I have never been single so I guess I should probably give it a go at some point. lol.

You say that, yet you were probably single for the first 13-14 years of your life, and you managed then. You'll be fine this time as well.

Reply 67

Louise1787

Tell your bf to get lost, that will help. It's scary but actually sounds like he's pulling away from you anyway and better to get rid of him than him ultimately leave you, particularly since it sounds like you've figured out it should be over first.

Secondly, all unis have hardship funds. They can often lend you lots of money or grant you less money (the specific amounts vary) but many don't ask you to pay anything back until you have a full time job. They will 100% help you if they are worried you will drop out. See what help they can give, then get a summer job to help you save up for the next year's costs.

Reply 68

Life_Changer

Draw a line in the sand and move on....take resonsibilty for who you are. Forgive your parents and anyone else in your life, that you feel is responsible for how things are right now. You are not the sum total of your problems and challenges....these are only temporary glitches on your travels through life. Get some faith and believe mechanisms.....we are all the sum total of our thoughts. So swap negative thoughts for positive ones, do some daily affirmations, believe in you and your life will change. B

Reply 69

maths12345

My only advice is: Go to the gym and do some squats. HEAVY. WIth your 5 rep max. 3 sets. It works for me. Really lifts my mood afterwards. Gets the blood pumping and you think more clearly.