My boyfriend and I sat down to dinner with his family and his dad says "My mouth feels sore, I think I may have an ulcer" and then my boyfriend goes "It's all that dick you have been sucking."
This is not the only time he has done it. He's made all sorts of sexist, racist, homophobic jokes which are for the large part harmless and I have no problem with this but sometimes they overstep the line.
I found this pretty awkward and fair enough if his dad joked back at him but he didn't he looked really annoyed and just told him to shut it. His mum and grandma also looked pretty horrified but my boyfriend just kept laughing away and the brother in law also found it funny.
Later that day I told him that I thought his joke overstepped the line and I didn't think his parents appreciated it. I also said if he directed that joke at me I would of felt really embarrassed in front of everyone and offended. He just rolled his eyes and said "Why would you feel offended? I think people feel offended far too easily and should get a grip." He also said he does not respect people who feel offended and said that I was being too prudish. I told him that I see his point but I genuinely would have had hurt feelings because I would have felt demeaned and disrespected and I can't help that I have those feelings whether I like them or not.
He took what I said on board but he doesn't respect the fact that my feelings would have been hurt had he done it. He then said that he just has a dark sense of humour and has a few friends who would have gladly gone along with it and given it back. I said that is all well and good but his family and myself clearly don't appreciate it like they do.
Then he got annoyed because he felt like I was trying to make him "well behaved" and be something he isn't??? I am all for dark humour and stuff but there is a time and a place. Also when we are back at our own flat and with our own friends he is never like this he only seems to get like this when he goes back to his parents, so it's a completely different side to the one I'm used to seeing.
Am I being too oversensitive? It's just I know i'm not the only one at that table who thought this otherwise I would not say anything. It's something I suppose you had to be there to see to fully understand where I'm coming from but I think if the other person is not laughing and offended then surely it's not funny?