How should I lose my virginity?

I admire you so much for this. I wish everyone viewed sex like you do. If I was you, I would get in a relationship and develop feelings first. That's what you want. Don't give your virginity up just because you feel that you need to do it. You will regret it later. If this guy you are talking to feels this way as well, try to develop a relationship with him. You never know what will happen. Good luck.


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Wait until you are in a relationship - what's to say it won't be with this guy anyway, you've got to get on well enough to speak honestly with each other.
if you're in a relationship, the emotional attachment will probably make the sex better.
either way it's your choice, but don't let anyone make it for you, it's clear losing your virginity means a lot to you, so think things through.
hope this helps x

I suppose this comes across as a bit of a weird question to others, but I'm genuinely having this dilemma...
I'm 20 years old, female at uni, and a virgin- not for religious reasons, but simply because I've not met someone yet who I feel I like enough to bother having sex with. I'm not struggling to find it- I could have so easily gone home with guys I've kissed in clubs etc but one-night stands aren't really a thing I'm looking for just yet.

I always assumed that the first time I would have sex, it would be with a guy who I had feelings for enough that we could potentially have a relationship. However in the past 3-4 months or so, I've spoken to a few guys who I know from uni... I'm strongly attracted to them but I don't think I'd ever imagine us in a proper relationship. In other words, it's pretty much 95% lust. And we've admitted to it, and he wants sex, and to be honest, I really would love to have sex with him as well, but the only thing holding me back is thinking it's probably a bad idea to lose my virginity over lust rather than through actual feelings... I said no to him based on that, but then recently another guy I've spoken to said he feels that way as well and I'm finding it more difficult than ever to say no because I do really want him!
He doesn't know I'm a virgin- many people don't know this because I'm actually a very outgoing person and I do get a bit of attention when I go out, so people assume that's just happened for me already. To me, the concept of virginity isn't a big deal- I just know that I'll always remember the person who my first time will end up being with so I don't want to have to cringe too much.


tl:dr;
What would you do?
Would you turn down potentially mind-blowing sex with a guy you really fancy, because you're waiting to have sex with someone when you find a stable relationship instead?

Yes.

Also maybe search for what you next want to post. This exact question is asked at least twice a week.

What's your reasoning behind this?

If you had casual sex with that guy, are you likely to get emotionally attached? Because if so, then don't
do it.

It's not that I feel like I have to- I can easily say no - it's just that I do really want it with these guys and really, the concept of "virginity" is a bit outdated nowadays.... So I'm just confused as to what I should do

Virginity is always going to be "one of those things" that everyone has very strong views about. I lost my virginity to my at the time girlfriend a few years back, it was nerve wracking and I kept wondering whether "Is she the right person?"

I loathe the concept of male virginity. It is not the same. There is nothing to 'lose'...

Sexist.

Nothing to lose?

Virginity for me was giving a part of me to someone else, it was about letting someone know me intimately. I "lost" that singularity and that was that.