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Would you date a traditional guy?

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This guy I was getting to know wanted me to be able to cook, clean and do all the house work chores when he is busy at work. Is this normal when a guy doesn't even want to his bit and help a girl out with the house work? He also wants a woman to be a wage earner so what do you make out of these men?

Is he dumb? - the reason women used to be housewives and do all the cooking and cleaning was because they didn't work, so they had time for that ****. He's looking for something that doesn't exist.

Forget him! He's not gonna find someone who's 'right' for him.

Reply 41

saeed97

Original post by Anonymous

Men are lazy people.

Lets not start.

Reply 42

the bear

Original post by pmprin

Are you speaking from experience there? Otherwise, how exactly would you know?

some things are just plain obvious :h:

Reply 43

pmprin

Original post by the bear

some things are just plain obvious :h:

Talking through your arse pal.

Reply 44

the bear

Original post by pmprin

Talking through your arse pal.

so coarse matey

Urgh **** off.

Whoever isn't at work all day is the one who should cook and clean, be that man or woman. If both are at work, then take turns so it's fair. Both roles should be viewed as equally important. Any guy who expects a woman to do all the cooking and cleaning whilst holding down a job herself isn't wanting a partner, he's wanting a replacement mother to wipe his backside. Girls should run a mile from this sort of thing.

Reply 47

Anonymous #2

Original post by saeed97

Lets not start.

But they are though.

You mad?

Reply 48

saeed97

Original post by Anonymous

But they are though.

You mad?

Na, its just not true.

Reply 49

A Gentleman

He should definitely contribute! Even dusting doesn't take long!

Reply 50

Anonymous #3

I'm a traditional man in a sense that my future wife is the housewife and i'm the one earning the money.

Reply 51

pmprin

Original post by saeed97

Na, its just not true.

You do realise this is probably a guy just trying to get someone to bite?

Reply 52

saeed97

Original post by pmprin

You do realise this is probably a guy just trying to get someone to bite?

Yeh its blatantly a troll

Reply 53

SammyHam

I enjoy cleaning and tend to want to do everything myself to make sure it's perfect, but if a guy expects me to do all of the cooking then he can either bugger off or get food poisoning. I hate cooking, there is nothing worse, and I'm terrible at it! I believe in helping each other - if one person cooks, the other should do the washing up. I'm a single parent at the moment, so I get the delightful task of doing everything myself anyway...on top of being a full time law student. Yay. '-.- But if I move in with a guy, I expect him to do his share because if he doesn't then it's essentially just like having to take care of another child.

Reply 54

EllainKahlo

No, I wouldn't. I expect my partner to clean up after themselves as I do, they're not a child, they don't need to be tended to. My ideal relationship would have me not feeling as though I do all the work, I should be able to do things for them and vice versa (like making them a meal) without keeping scores.

Reply 55

laffytaffy

Original post by Anonymous

If he wants to you to be a wage earner.... then he's not a 'traditional guy'. Traditional guys are happy to be the sole provider whilst you don't work and have babies/clean the house or at least they were when it used to be easier to get on the property ladder :P

If he wants you to both work full time... you both do house stuff. Expecting you to do everything after a long days work is unreasonable. If you work part time and he works full time, then doing more house stuff would probably be expected (but note I say *more* not everything. My grandparents are both retired, so again equal situation, my grandma cooks and my grandpa does the dishes etc

Reply 56

slade p

Traditional men are the best men.

Reply 57

pmprin

Housework is one thing, but when you bring childcare into the situation its completely different.
A person can not possibly expect someone to stay at home all day with the children, then cook, clean and run the home. Childcare is THE most difficult, demanding job...I would take a 9-5 over a 24 hour carer any time.

Reply 58

MissML

Personally I wouldn't. I prefer the idea of a relationship where there is equality. Okay, of course, if one person works and the other doesn't, the one at home will need to do more around the house. However jobs around the house should still be shared when possible.

Saying that, there are women who prefer the idea of a more traditional relationship where the man is at work, they are at home doing the house work and caring for the man when he's at home. So it's down to personal preference.