Scared to lose virginity - male

I'm 21 and still a virgin and scared to do it. I had the chance with 6 girls so far and every time I've never 'got it up' from nerves so all I've done is other stuff with them. When I was 16 I wanted to do it but my gf wasn't ready and then we broke up and eventually it just came to the point where I didn't wanna do it - any advice on getting the first time over? I guess you can say besides the thought of having sex scaring me I'm also worried it's too small and I won't last long etc I tried alcohol but that just makes it harder to get up I heard

Reply 1

ivybridge

6

You're clearly not ready so why are you pushing yourself? "Getting the first time over" - why do you need to? Let it be natural and just happen.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

It's just everytime a girl asks to stay round or for me to go back to theirs I say no and its preventing me from continuing relationships, is there like a natural remedy for nerves?

Reply 3

callum_law

6

Original post by Anonymous

It's just everytime a girl asks to stay round or for me to go back to theirs I say no and its preventing me from continuing relationships, is there like a natural remedy for nerves?

Alcohol.

Reply 4

TheonlyMrsHolmes

19

Just wait!!!! why are you forcing yourself?

Reply 5

RainbowKiwi

16

You're clearly not ready. You don't need to put pressure on yourself to get it over with. Maybe you haven't met someone that you feel comfortable enough to do it with? Don't force it, your time will come naturally.

Reply 6

Proxenus

21

OK let's hear your penis size then since you're anon and remember average in UK is 5.2 according to the guardian.

Don't rush it. It's not a big deal. It will happen when it happens.

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Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

I heard alcohol is even worse for getting it up?

Yeah I guess you're all right I should wait until I'm comfortable , it's just weird as I'm a guy and usually it's the other way round - girls what would you be like in your 20s if a guy was still a Virgin and wanted to wait, honest opinion don't feel the need to be nice / lie

Oh I thought average was 6.5 for UK, not sure my exact size but I think it's about 6inches and 4.5 inch "girth" - cringiest word haha

Reply 8

TheonlyMrsHolmes

19

Original post by Anonymous

I heard alcohol is even worse for getting it up?

Yeah I guess you're all right I should wait until I'm comfortable , it's just weird as I'm a guy and usually it's the other way round - girls what would you be like in your 20s if a guy was still a Virgin and wanted to wait, honest opinion don't feel the need to be nice / lie

Oh I thought average was 6.5 for UK, not sure my exact size but I think it's about 6inches and 4.5 inch "girth" - cringiest word haha

I would marry him. I am not even joking.

Reply 9

username927016

20

I'd probably be a bit scared my first time as well, as it's uncharted territory & being anxious about not performing & other embarrassing things that could occur. I guess you should wait till you're with someone you feel comfortable with who you don't feel with judge you or anything, before deciding to do the deed :smile: