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University isn't good for an Autistic person

I have another tip for you. You could train as a security guard. You can easily do this while at university and then work part-time.
http://www.uksecurity-directory.co.uk/blog/how-to-become-a-security-guard/

When trained, you can get work on weekends, walking around deserted buildings at night, checking that the windows are closed. In the right position your interaction with people will be absolutely minimal (so long as you don't take jobs as a bodyguard or bouncer) and you can earn some money to make you a little bit more independent of your parents.

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Reply 41

Tony_LeaS

10

Original post by Anonymous

I can not cope with the disorder.

I'm lucky that people don't think autistic or believe that i'm autistic (if i tell someone) but people know i'm a shy, introverted and possibly a loner

You shouldn't be fussed on who knows, you shouldn't think things are bad because of your condition, when its clearly natural and hundreds if not millions have it.

Reply 42

Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

Some people accept their autism, some people can't. The way this disorder has ruined me and my family is what made me leave my family to go to a far away uni.

You speak very negatively about your disorder maybe that's why you are feeling this way. Have you tried making conversation with your flatmates or have you just presumed they're not talking to you because they haven't made conversation first? If you quit uni you will still be autistic but autistic without a degree so you need to stay. You can still have a social life, perhaps find a group of people in a similar situation to you and learn to accept and love who you are. People like you can help to bring that out and you will find socializing easier. I think you just need to shift your mind frame.

Reply 43

Skratch My Itch

11

Why do you attempt to hide it? I mean, for starters, it's quite easy to tell when someone has a form of autism (unless it's really mild), and two, letting people know (if asked about it) will help people communicate with you properly, or at least not get so upset if you say something "offensive" or bluntly. But yeah, it is a shame you're not enjoying uni. I'm not even autistic (well, if I am, I'm not diagnosed) but I find the social aspect of uni (meeting people outside of class) borderline torturous to be honest. Oh yeah, and autism is likely genetic, so it isn't your fault that your brother has autism. Technically, it's your parents.

Reply 44

Anonymous #1

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Original post by Skratch My Itch

Why do you attempt to hide it? I mean, for starters, it's quite easy to tell when someone has a form of autism (unless it's really mild), and two, letting people know (if asked about it) will help people communicate with you properly, or at least not get so upset if you say something "offensive" or bluntly. But yeah, it is a shame you're not enjoying uni. I'm not even autistic (well, if I am, I'm not diagnosed) but I find the social aspect of uni (meeting people outside of class) borderline torturous to be honest. Oh yeah, and autism is likely genetic, so it isn't your fault that your brother has autism. Technically, it's your parents.

Well, it's mild (if not probably unnoticeable). I get ****ing pissed off of people using it as an insult hence i will never announce the disorder.

It's fine, i'm living as a recluse as i'm planning to move out of halls

Reply 45

somethingbeautiful

18

Original post by llys

I have another tip for you. You could train as a security guard. You can easily do this while at university and then work part-time.
http://www.uksecurity-directory.co.uk/blog/how-to-become-a-security-guard/

When trained, you can get work on weekends, walking around deserted buildings at night, checking that the windows are closed. In the right position your interaction with people will be absolutely minimal (so long as you don't take jobs as a bodyguard or bouncer) and you can earn some money to make you a little bit more independent of your parents.

Bad idea. They ought to be getting help and pushing themselves gradually into more social situations, not recoiling and isolating themselves.

Reply 46

kukulaka

10

Your parents do not seem particularly supportive of you, especially blaming you for your brother's autism. I am sorry they say these things. No wonder you seem to blame autism for all that is wrong in your life. I think you have accept that your brain is just different. Autism is only a disorder in so much that we do not think like most other people we meet, and that can lead to some problematic social situations.

I'm autistic, and I agree that the social aspects of university can be very troublesome. I struggled in my first degree greatly, my university did not know I was autistic (I didn't know myself have only been recently diagnosed, after my boyfriend suggested to me that I may be autistic). I really struggled making friends and following lectures. It was a really lonely time and I had a nervous breakdown. Thankfully, I then had a councilor and doctor who helped me. I believe that if I'd known I am autistic I would have had a better time at uni.

I am now studying for a second degree with the OU and I find this degree less stressful, as there is minimal social interaction and there is not the horrible noise and shuffling of lectures.

The loneliness never goes away, but you must stick with your degree if you enjoy it. It will make getting jobs easier. There are also forums you can join to speak with others on the spectrum...it makes things bearable when non-autistic people do things you don't understand.

Reply 47

Skratch My Itch

11

Original post by Anonymous

Well, it's mild (if not probably unnoticeable). I get ****ing pissed off of people using it as an insult hence i will never announce the disorder.

It's fine, i'm living as a recluse as i'm planning to move out of halls

Most people, if they're going to joke about your autism, at the very least, won't do it to your face. Most won't even joke about it anyway. But yeah. I get being a recluse. It does suck, but spending your whole time feeling sorry for yourself is not positive.

Reply 48

llys

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Original post by somethingbeautiful

Bad idea. They ought to be getting help and pushing themselves gradually into more social situations, not recoiling and isolating themselves.

That's wonderful advice. :hugs:

Or he could just try to be happy the way he is.

Reply 49

MxSyd

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Original post by Anonymous

I can't take uni anymore. It isn't working.

When someone has this dreaded horrific disorder, your life is 1,000,000 times difficult. I'm a closet autistic meaning i keep it a secret and i make sure no one knows i have this distraught disorder.

I can see why people would make fun of autism, i mean look at us :frown:

. I thought going to uni will end my anxiety and depression and to supress the autism, instead it has made me severely depressed and made me hate this disorder more and more.

Moral of the story, don't go to uni if you have autism.

Hey,
The reason that you might be suffering could be because you aren't telling anyone, by not telling anyone you're not letting them help you. I have ASD and I am applying to university right now, I have no intention of not going. Universities legally HAVE to help you and support you, just let them know and there is so much that they can do for you.

Reply 50

Anonymous #3

Original post by Anonymous

I can't take uni anymore. It isn't working.

When someone has this dreaded horrific disorder, your life is 1,000,000 times difficult. I'm a closet autistic meaning i keep it a secret and i make sure no one knows i have this distraught disorder.

I can see why people would make fun of autism, i mean look at us :frown:

. I thought going to uni will end my anxiety and depression and to supress the autism, instead it has made me severely depressed and made me hate this disorder more and more.

Moral of the story, don't go to uni if you have autism.

this was written 5 years ago. how r u doing now? pls ive hated this stupid disorder my whole life. i wish my dad wore protection. im at the stage of applying for uni so has anything actually changed for u?

Reply 51

Smeraldettoi

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Original post by Anonymous

this was written 5 years ago. how r u doing now? pls ive hated this stupid disorder my whole life. i wish my dad wore protection. im at the stage of applying for uni so has anything actually changed for u?