what does islam say about breakups or heartbreak?

Why?

Why not make your own choices?

Arranged marriage of this kind belongs in the dark ages.

You are choosing whether you want to marry him or not.

No, forced marriages belong in the dark ages.

You definitely don't do what the user above me said ^

Either arranged marriage or you tell your parents or next of kin who you like so they can take it from there.

So you advocate your parents selecting maybe a few men from which you are allowed to choose? Whilst that's not as abhorrent as forced marriage, it takes away much of your freedom. You need the freedom to make mistakes.

would hate to be your child tbh

Lol I will try and bring my child up in the best Islamic manner Insha Allah so they'll thank me in the hereafter
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Lol your child will rebel and hate you for making them marry somebody before they knew what they were getting into and then realising later that person was an ******* and mistreated them and their life is now ruined. It is not unislamic to talk to someone and get to know them before you make a massive commitment like marriage, it's not a joke they're gonna spend the rest of their lives with this person they've gotta know if they like them enough and if they're good for them. Their unhappiness in the marriage could also make it more likely for them to sin due to their unhappiness and when they're frying in the hereafter I'm sure they won't be thanking you.

It doesn't have to turn out that way, it could be a happy marriage, but i'd rather not risk it and have my kid know who they're gonna spend the rest of their lives with

I won't make my child marry anyone they don't want to.
You can talk to them and spend time with them.
You can have as many meetings as you want.
Just not all of that alone.

I already said I'm against forced marriages smh, don't understand why people intend on making themselves look stupid by not reading the whole convo.

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You go on a date, go out eating, get to know eachother... favourite things, likes, dislikes etc. If you're compatible then it works and you get married, if not then you part ways.

You definitely don't do what the user above me said ^Either arranged marriage or you tell your parents or next of kin who you like so they can take it from there.

I'm not stupid brah

when did that user ever say this was to be done alone? yet you still disagreed very strongly.
I never said you'd make them marry someone they don't want to, I said someone they don't know properly, for example they may be attracted to them and want to be with them but after speaking to them properly they may not like them and feel they aren't right for them.

do you even read brah

No you're not. Sorry about that.

That's kinda what a 'date' is you know.

You don't hear about people going on dates with another family member present do you?

You should be

What about double dates, that has friends present

you know what Islamic dates are like man, plus what about the "get to know eachother... favourite things, likes, dislikes etc. If you're compatible then it works and you get married, if not then you part ways." bit that you also dismissed

Idk I think you need to have a mahram present.

Yeah but you can ask those questions beforehand.

what like "mama ask them what their favourite TV show is"?
nah man thats too much but to each their own I guess

@HAnwar


No, I doubt arrange marriages are the only Halal ways. You could marry a colleague, classmate, and other acquaintances.