Crush flirts with me but has boyfriend

So yeah we've been talking for a month and got on well. She flirts with me etc. She also messages me a lot. Now she tells me she has a boyfriend, then she says I cant believe you didnt know.

Now she keeps on messaging me, now this winds me up, because if she's with someone there's nothing I can do. There's no point me replying, I mean what is she ends up flirting again, she's with someone.

I dont want talk to her and say tell her I liked her as that may make things awkward and worse. The other thing is there are other guys at work and she doesnt really flirt with them.

If I dont talk to her, I think she'll bring it up and say why, I mean if I tell her the truth, that'll be a bit harsh, I mean what do I say your unfaithful ?

She is using you.

For what ? She might say the flirting was friendly

For what ? She might say the flirting was friendly

Wow....I could never find out how flirting could be friendly....I mean I would never do that if I was in a relationship with another person...that is in a way being unfaithful...

Look at it this way.

You have a crush on her so obviously you would want you and her to be together at some point. But if she's flirting with you while she has a boyfriend, then even if sometime in the future you get together with her, she'll just do the same.

It's best just to view it as it is and hopefully the feelings will dissipate.

Just say you're not comfortable talking to her like this while she has a boyfriend, you don't need to explain yourself further, that's a valid reason as it stands.

Thats what im saying, im suprised she had a boyfriend and never mentioned it, like I said she seemed a decent person. But we flirted and there were times where she could have said 'my boyfriend wont like that' but she didnt.

Mhmm, so yeah run a mile mate. And find someone who's gunna be true to you

Look at it this way.

You have a crush on her so obviously you would want you and her to be together at some point. But if she's flirting with you while she has a boyfriend, then even if sometime in the future you get together with her, she'll just do the same.

It's best just to view it as it is and hopefully the feelings will dissipate.

Just say you're not comfortable talking to her like this while she has a boyfriend, you don't need to explain yourself further, that's a valid reason as it stands.

She is a snake. No decent person would do this, don't expect her to change stripes for you, that is a mistake.

I am just so suprised, I didnt think she would be like that. Everyone that knows her says she's decent. But yeah it is bad.

What if she promises to stay commited to me ? I dont know, I mean if she's not playing it straight with one guy now, whats the guarantee with me.

So yeah we've been talking for a month and got on well. She flirts with me etc. She also messages me a lot. Now she tells me she has a boyfriend, then she says I cant believe you didnt know.

Now she keeps on messaging me, now this winds me up, because if she's with someone there's nothing I can do. There's no point me replying, I mean what is she ends up flirting again, she's with someone.

I dont want talk to her and say tell her I liked her as that may make things awkward and worse. The other thing is there are other guys at work and she doesnt really flirt with them.

If I dont talk to her, I think she'll bring it up and say why, I mean if I tell her the truth, that'll be a bit harsh, I mean what do I say your unfaithful ?

Cut her off. She's just leading you on. Plus, a cheater.