I'm 24 and a virgin, I went to the doctors because I turn 25 this year so they said I need to start having smears. The nurse couldn't get the speculum in, she even tried the small one and that didn't go either.
She said it's because I've never been sexually active, assumed I was straight and would sleep with men and said to come back after I've had sex a few times and "it'll just slide right in".
I have been left feeling very upset by this, I didn't think that would make a difference and I'm also not happy with her attitude about it. I won't be seeing her again when I go back (luckily there's also a female doctor who I can see instead). But I didn't think I was all that nervous and I was doing my best to relax but now I know when I go back I'll be super tense because of what happened last time.
She also told me not to let it put me off having sex, because that would be different and I'd be more relaxed then, but how do I not, really?
I know it's silly to be upset about this, but I can't help it. I had a really good cry about it last night but I avoided my mum because I honestly can't say why I'm upset with any clarity. I'm just upset.
Does anyone else have any similar experiences or any advice for me?
Thanks.