Telling people about my autism
Hey,
So basically, about a week before I started uni (I'm on my 4th week of uni) I found that I am mildly autistic. Possibly Aspergers.
I've made friends with people in my flat, on my course and in one of the clubs that I do. I'm not super close with any of them but I thought, maybe by now, I would be more friendly with some of them (e.g. meeting up outside of class/club times). So I don't know if my issue is that I'm slightly autistic. My autism has never stopped me from making friends as I've made great friends previously without the knowledge of autism.
However, I feel it would be beneficial to tell some of them that I am slightly autistic. Yet, I'm not quite sure how to tell them. I've looked on the internet for ways to tell my friends but because I'm not seriously autistic I can't really tell if it's necessary to tell them.
If anyone has any suggestions about what to do, that would be very helpful.
So basically, about a week before I started uni (I'm on my 4th week of uni) I found that I am mildly autistic. Possibly Aspergers.
I've made friends with people in my flat, on my course and in one of the clubs that I do. I'm not super close with any of them but I thought, maybe by now, I would be more friendly with some of them (e.g. meeting up outside of class/club times). So I don't know if my issue is that I'm slightly autistic. My autism has never stopped me from making friends as I've made great friends previously without the knowledge of autism.
However, I feel it would be beneficial to tell some of them that I am slightly autistic. Yet, I'm not quite sure how to tell them. I've looked on the internet for ways to tell my friends but because I'm not seriously autistic I can't really tell if it's necessary to tell them.
If anyone has any suggestions about what to do, that would be very helpful.
Original post by Jasminea
Hey,
So basically, about a week before I started uni (I'm on my 4th week of uni) I found that I am mildly autistic. Possibly Aspergers.
I've made friends with people in my flat, on my course and in one of the clubs that I do. I'm not super close with any of them but I thought, maybe by now, I would be more friendly with some of them (e.g. meeting up outside of class/club times). So I don't know if my issue is that I'm slightly autistic. My autism has never stopped me from making friends as I've made great friends previously without the knowledge of autism.
However, I feel it would be beneficial to tell some of them that I am slightly autistic. Yet, I'm not quite sure how to tell them. I've looked on the internet for ways to tell my friends but because I'm not seriously autistic I can't really tell if it's necessary to tell them.
If anyone has any suggestions about what to do, that would be very helpful.
So basically, about a week before I started uni (I'm on my 4th week of uni) I found that I am mildly autistic. Possibly Aspergers.
I've made friends with people in my flat, on my course and in one of the clubs that I do. I'm not super close with any of them but I thought, maybe by now, I would be more friendly with some of them (e.g. meeting up outside of class/club times). So I don't know if my issue is that I'm slightly autistic. My autism has never stopped me from making friends as I've made great friends previously without the knowledge of autism.
However, I feel it would be beneficial to tell some of them that I am slightly autistic. Yet, I'm not quite sure how to tell them. I've looked on the internet for ways to tell my friends but because I'm not seriously autistic I can't really tell if it's necessary to tell them.
If anyone has any suggestions about what to do, that would be very helpful.
Dropping it during a joke or casually sometimes helps. I'm mildly Aspergan, but tbh I realised that it's not such a big thing that people's perspective changes of you. It's something that for all the worrying we do over it, they just go "ohh okay" and move on.
So ye, just try to drop it casually at some point and remember nobody's really gonna judge you or think worse of you over it
Original post by Jasminea
Hey,
So basically, about a week before I started uni (I'm on my 4th week of uni) I found that I am mildly autistic. Possibly Aspergers.
I've made friends with people in my flat, on my course and in one of the clubs that I do. I'm not super close with any of them but I thought, maybe by now, I would be more friendly with some of them (e.g. meeting up outside of class/club times). So I don't know if my issue is that I'm slightly autistic. My autism has never stopped me from making friends as I've made great friends previously without the knowledge of autism.
However, I feel it would be beneficial to tell some of them that I am slightly autistic. Yet, I'm not quite sure how to tell them. I've looked on the internet for ways to tell my friends but because I'm not seriously autistic I can't really tell if it's necessary to tell them.
If anyone has any suggestions about what to do, that would be very helpful.
So basically, about a week before I started uni (I'm on my 4th week of uni) I found that I am mildly autistic. Possibly Aspergers.
I've made friends with people in my flat, on my course and in one of the clubs that I do. I'm not super close with any of them but I thought, maybe by now, I would be more friendly with some of them (e.g. meeting up outside of class/club times). So I don't know if my issue is that I'm slightly autistic. My autism has never stopped me from making friends as I've made great friends previously without the knowledge of autism.
However, I feel it would be beneficial to tell some of them that I am slightly autistic. Yet, I'm not quite sure how to tell them. I've looked on the internet for ways to tell my friends but because I'm not seriously autistic I can't really tell if it's necessary to tell them.
If anyone has any suggestions about what to do, that would be very helpful.
It's really up to you whether you tell people, since you've only just recently found out i guess it's difficult for you to tell people if there is a way to help you in some way. If you think it's beneficial then i think you should do it, if they react badly then you know they weren't worth your friendship anyway.
How does it affect you? Like is there a noticeable character which would raise eyebrows? If not, I wouldn’t worry about it, as they seem to like you...that being said, even if you did tell them, they shouldn’t treat you any differently, and if they did, then they’re not good friends.
At the end of the day, it’s you...if you feel comfortable around them then if you’re having dinner just say, “I just wanted to let you know that I found out I’m Autistic...” and then ask them if they have any questions then thank you for understanding!
Like I said any decent person wouldn’t care either way, they would still like you!
Hope this makes sense!
At the end of the day, it’s you...if you feel comfortable around them then if you’re having dinner just say, “I just wanted to let you know that I found out I’m Autistic...” and then ask them if they have any questions then thank you for understanding!
Like I said any decent person wouldn’t care either way, they would still like you!
Hope this makes sense!
Original post by Meggy99
How does it affect you? Like is there a noticeable character which would raise eyebrows? If not, I wouldn’t worry about it, as they seem to like you...that being said, even if you did tell them, they shouldn’t treat you any differently, and if they did, then they’re not good friends.
At the end of the day, it’s you...if you feel comfortable around them then if you’re having dinner just say, “I just wanted to let you know that I found out I’m Autistic...” and then ask them if they have any questions then thank you for understanding!
Like I said any decent person wouldn’t care either way, they would still like you!
Hope this makes sense!
At the end of the day, it’s you...if you feel comfortable around them then if you’re having dinner just say, “I just wanted to let you know that I found out I’m Autistic...” and then ask them if they have any questions then thank you for understanding!
Like I said any decent person wouldn’t care either way, they would still like you!
Hope this makes sense!
Well, it's not really noticeable. It affects me in a social way (with my friends) as in the fact that I think if I didn't have autism I think I'd have longer and more meaningful conversations with my friends. Also uni life is all about drinking and clubbing (I know not all of it but most of it) but I don't really drink and clubbing has been alright. I don't know if it's because I never used to go clubbing with my friends but I feel as though I don't enjoy clubbing that much. Maybe it's because I'm not drunk but I know that I'd prefer to just stay at home and play games with my friends instead.
However, this could be noticeable and cause me issues when I go to frisbee competitions. I go with my team who are all super nice and supportive but when they go out late at night, I don't always like to do this (maybe because of my autism). It feels slightly awkward for me because I know sometimes I may want to go out but most of the time I'd prefer to stay in for the night. I want to have fun with them but at the same time I don't really want to cause them a problem by saying I don't want to go out. They're such an inclusive club that if I told them I didn't want to go out they'd probs keep some people in with me which is great but I don't want that to spoil the fun of someone else. This is why I sometimes get myself to go to the club nights even though I know I should tell myself that I don't need to do it.
Also thanks for the reply
Original post by claireestelle
It's really up to you whether you tell people, since you've only just recently found out i guess it's difficult for you to tell people if there is a way to help you in some way. If you think it's beneficial then i think you should do it, if they react badly then you know they weren't worth your friendship anyway.
Yeah I know my friendship shouldn't really change, I'm just finding it a bit odd because I've never needed to tell anyone before (as I never new about it). But thanks anyway.
Original post by CastCuraga
Dropping it during a joke or casually sometimes helps. I'm mildly Aspergan, but tbh I realised that it's not such a big thing that people's perspective changes of you. It's something that for all the worrying we do over it, they just go "ohh okay" and move on.
So ye, just try to drop it casually at some point and remember nobody's really gonna judge you or think worse of you over it
So ye, just try to drop it casually at some point and remember nobody's really gonna judge you or think worse of you over it
Ok, thanks. I was just going to message people about it because I thought it was an easier way to tell them everything.
I don’t think that’s an autism thing? I don’t drink and I couldn’t think of anything worse than clubbing! And my perfect night would be staying in playing games! So your interest are a bit different to others, but I bet you’re not alone either.
The social conduct at uni is to go out clubbing and get drunk, because everyone is doing it... that doesn’t mean you have to!
Why not suggest organising nights in with a movie and a takeaway?
And you’re welcome!
The social conduct at uni is to go out clubbing and get drunk, because everyone is doing it... that doesn’t mean you have to!
Why not suggest organising nights in with a movie and a takeaway?
And you’re welcome!
You can if you want to but you're probably still going to have to tell them what it means for you.
Original post by Jasminea
My autism has never stopped me from making friends as I've made great friends previously without the knowledge of autism.
ok please go back to the doctor (i'm not being rude, this is advice, sorry if it sounds rude) get a re diagnosis.
I'm autstic and im dying. I have no friends. i'm drunk af because i cant cope with the disorder. what im saying is please get a re diagnosis. Because autistic people struggle to form friendship. you have just said you had friends before u was diagnosed. it may be that you have social anxiety.
Personally i never tell people i have autism unless they guess it themselves and the latter is quite really rare.
Not much point in it really, it's not like as if you are explAining some strange behaviour which may worry them. Whilst I'm mildly autistic myself it's not the sole cause of me preferring to shut myself in at times and most of my uni mates now in 2nd year only found out recently because of conversations involving our housing and me mentioning I'm on campus again.
It depends on how you feel around them. Do you feel at ease with them or is there still something niggling within you? If you're not sure, I would give it a bit more time to get to know them. There's nothing wrong with autism of course, but it's the same for all of us that we want to be sure we can trust people before letting them close. If you're still not sure, and you may have given it more time, don't forget student welfare are available to help you navigate this stuff.
Original post by Quiet Benin
ok please go back to the doctor (i'm not being rude, this is advice, sorry if it sounds rude) get a re diagnosis.
I'm autstic and im dying. I have no friends. i'm drunk af because i cant cope with the disorder. what im saying is please get a re diagnosis. Because autistic people struggle to form friendship. you have just said you had friends before u was diagnosed. it may be that you have social anxiety.
Personally i never tell people i have autism unless they guess it themselves and the latter is quite really rare.
I'm autstic and im dying. I have no friends. i'm drunk af because i cant cope with the disorder. what im saying is please get a re diagnosis. Because autistic people struggle to form friendship. you have just said you had friends before u was diagnosed. it may be that you have social anxiety.
Personally i never tell people i have autism unless they guess it themselves and the latter is quite really rare.
Well I hope you can find some friends, whether it be through clubs or other forms of socialising.
I know I don't need to get a rediagnosis because it also affects me in educational settings too so it is not just social anxiety. However, I know social anxiety is a part of it.
So I think I'm fine in that sense but I hope u make some friends. Although it's not been a huge struggle for me, I can always try and give u a few tips if u need help.
Original post by Meggy99
I don’t think that’s an autism thing? I don’t drink and I couldn’t think of anything worse than clubbing! And my perfect night would be staying in playing games! So your interest are a bit different to others, but I bet you’re not alone either.
The social conduct at uni is to go out clubbing and get drunk, because everyone is doing it... that doesn’t mean you have to!
Why not suggest organising nights in with a movie and a takeaway?
And you’re welcome!
The social conduct at uni is to go out clubbing and get drunk, because everyone is doing it... that doesn’t mean you have to!
Why not suggest organising nights in with a movie and a takeaway?
And you’re welcome!
Yeah, I thought it might not be an autism thing. I'm so glad u feel the same way as me. I was going to suggest other things to them but I'm just going to see how it goes. I found that I don't hate clubbing, I just feel that I don't enjoy it that much.
Original post by FairySparkleGirl
It depends on how you feel around them. Do you feel at ease with them or is there still something niggling within you? If you're not sure, I would give it a bit more time to get to know them. There's nothing wrong with autism of course, but it's the same for all of us that we want to be sure we can trust people before letting them close. If you're still not sure, and you may have given it more time, don't forget student welfare are available to help you navigate this stuff.
It has been niggling me a bit but yeah I might give it more time. I know autism is fine, I'm just getting used to it. Thanks for the help.
You're welcome hon, and let us know how you get on x
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