Peoples views on sexuality change soooo much when you’re 18/19 and leave school/go to University. Although growing up my parents were never open minded about it all, quite the opposite in fact.
I’m glad I was in a friend group that are open minded about it all. I wouldn’t put a tag on my sexuality but I think I might be bisexual (I don’t like the tag because it makes it seem like I’m attracted to men and women, I’m mostly attracted to women but I have fallen in love with a guy before, my friend in fact… who is straight… in all fairness I thought he was bisexual and he doesn’t come across as your typical straight guy.
I’ve had loads of straight guy friends and I’m friends with loads of girls and it’s never been much of an issue for me tbh although now that I think about it, if you’re gay, stay away from straight guys you think you’d like. Because if it gets deep and you catch feelings it’s tough, I’m still not over the guy I like, he knows how I feel and he was nice enough to make out with me and still hangs out with me but I have to accept it’ll never be a regular thing since he doesn’t enjoy it the same way I do although I think he’d do it again if we got drunk together though. But keeping our friendship is more important to me so I wouldn’t risk it, I also have to accept while I would be prepared to drop all my plans for him, spend ages with him and enjoy every second of it, he probably wouldn’t since its purely platonic for him like I would also feel comfortable just sitting quietly with him but he would probably feel weird or bored because he doesn’t share romantic feelings. Although my ‘crush’ for him was more of an emotional attraction, I wouldn’t love him because of sex... but I guess I would have sex because I love him but I don’t think that’s a choice.
So yeah.. you can be friends with straight guys but just don’t catch feelings and the easiest way to do this is to be in a relationship or have a balance of gay/bi friends. If you just interact with straight guys, I think sooner or later you’ll fall in love with one of them and it’s not fun… it’s worst than being rejected, no amount of self improvement, boob job, butt job or trying to make them jealous, etc can win them over, it is what it is and you’d have to move on…